Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I just got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship about 8 months ago and I am still having a VERY difficult time getting over him. We had a very good loving relationship besides the fact that he couldn't be faithful, which is the main reason we fell apart. But I have always felt that we were meant for each other and that fate brought us together in the first place. I feel like I have been through all the phases and emotions, but I still can't let him go. I was very prominent on making sure I could be by myself before I tried to move on. I knew I was going to have to let it hurt instead of trying to cover it up by being with someone else. 6 months after the break up was when I started to try to move on, and although I have met nice guys, they just aren't the same. I feel like I have no emotion towards anyone else and the connection just doesn't compare. I haven't been down or sad the entire breakup, I went through a phase where I felt free and excited to experience new things in my life. But now I feel like I have come to a dead end. I miss him soooooooooo much and I have no idea if he misses me at all. This was my first real relationship and I am just looking for some advice from people who have been through this. Does it get better or is he always going to be the only one I want to be with??? please help!
But it takes time. Believe me you will. I have been divorced for over
twenty years and while losing that first love is painful, I did move on.
It does get better but you must take it one day at a time, sometimes
one moment at a time to get through this.
Take care!!!
But we have to have hope and faith that because we are loving individuals, that we will pick and choose the right people for us going forward. Someone that does embody the qualities and chemistry that we need. It will never replace the person we are no longer with, but it will be different. We have to have faith. Otherwise, why even try? And try we must in time. I don't see myself working on this for a very long time. It's so new for me right now, I can't even contemplate dating. Ugh.
Peace girl.
sometimes love isn't enough, but i am sure he misses you too for what it's worth
That's a rather scarie avatar you have there. You're not inclined to hurt yourself, are you????
First, let me make a suggestion. Change your profile pic. With a picture like that, what you're doing is reminding yourself that you are hurt (which is fine during the initial stages) but at some point you need to start making small changes in your life to move towards getting better.
Second, remember that it's a two way street. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Every second you spend thinking about him is a second you won't get back and you're wasting time and energy thinking about someone who does not deserve it.
Not going to sugarcoat it, maybe you will never find someone with a connection like that again. But there's also a chance you might find someone who will be 100X better than this last guy. But unless you accept completely that it is over, your mind won't allow you to see the good in new people.
Continue to work on yourself and strive to get to a point in life where no one will be able to hurt you again. It all starts with loving yourself, as cliche as that sounds. Good luck!