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Wife told me to do what I gotta do

Rman
Rman
Well, she told me she hates my family, too and to do what ever it takes to make this end. Well, I'm not sure what to do. At least I have my shoes...
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((rman)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't do anything, that sure will piss her off.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats nice of her to say. Hope you said thanks.

Mine tried driving me bananas so I'd leave. Didnt work. She left. I dont get why you have to leave or go with your parents etc. Get her to leave.

Man hug with three pats on the back to rman.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yah, make sure you take the vacuum cleaner as well.
totallychaotic247
totallychaotic247
I am in agreement with the others. Either tell her to leave or take the kids and go to your parents if that's an option. If you leave the house without the kids, it will be a long drawn out custody battle to try to get them back. ((((Rman))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you take kids she pays you and if she told you to do what you have to then tell her you have a girl comming over to do that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She needs to pack and leave.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Or, leave like you mean it, come back in 4 hours, see how she reacts.
patti22
patti22
What do you want to do?

Whatever it is it will be hard. But waiting 5 years won't make it any easier.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're smart. You know how this should play out. And you know that you have a lot of people who care about you. Time to get on with it.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I wouldn't just leave like you mean it. If you own the place, then tell her you will help her pack her bags as that is what it will take and since she wants you to do whatever it takes, then you will go get the suit cases for her.

sorry, bro
JennyMe
JennyMe
sorry rman..

i guess "something has got to give" eventually.

i agree that talking to your parents and maybe moving in with them is a good idea.. just to clear the air.. get some distance.. i have a feeling it would be a lot healthier for everyone.

hugs tho. but i do think that once you are no longer treading water, finally then you will have some movement and (hopefully) start to feel better on a lot of different levels.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Reply #23 - You're telling him to bluff moving out??? What is the point in that?? I'm not sure the rationale to this.

Rman.....I'd tell her to leave....and if she won't if you can move in with your parents WITH your girls.

Ultimately, do you want your kids growing up thinking this is what a marriage is SUPPOSE to look like? For them to think this is NORMAL?
LKess
LKess
You know what you need to do. Do it on your terms, how you want to......not just because she told you to.