Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Tryingtorebuild 03/09/2014

Not sure how to handle this. I was married 22 years. My wife had an affair and has since moved in with the guy. This was only a month ago. She has begun posting pics of her and her new boyfriend and talking about how much fun she is having all over facebook. All this while I can hardly function, I cry ,I'm depressed and on most days it takes all my energy just to get up in the morning. How can our lives together have meant nothing to her? How could she have just thrown me out like the trash? And then to do this I feel betrayed all over again. ( I'm still dealing with my initial feelings of betrayal) I don't actively go to facebook to see these things (although I did once the1st time I heard...big mistake) but I keep hearing from friends what she's doing. To make matters worse I have some other "friends" and even one of my own relatives who have "liked" some of her pics and posts. It just feels like I'm being torn apart by everybody. As you all know this process is painful and difficult enough without this sort of crap. Has anyone else had to deal with this? How were you able to cope with this new form of torture.

Tryingtorebuild 03/09/2014

Thank you all for your replies. I have suspended facebook use and have asked friends to not mention her or what she is posting. As several of you have said, if my friends cant have the decency to do this they aren't really my friends.

deleted_user 03/09/2014

I agree with whomever said that you will lose more than just the wife in this.

That's true. You may lose some people you really like, or you will have the dead weight, thankfully, dropped...like I felt when I no longer had to deal with my ex mother in law and sister in law.

Whatever the case, people choose sides...it's how they do.

Look out for yourself first, screw the rest.

simit 03/10/2014

CANCEL YOUR FACEBOOK ACCOUNT! CANCEL CANCEL CANCEL! You need to start everything from scratch! I mean everything. Your friendship with other need to be completely redefined. What she is doing is awful. The same thing happened to me but not over facebook. After my ex abandoned me for another woman, and our baby twins were barely six weeks old, people I used to be friends showed tolerance to him and his decision, also supported him. Just get off facebook and live in the real world. Facebook is a fake world no matter how many of us like it, post stuff on it to keep in touch. I have an account too but I also know that it is a virtual social network that others use, often and among other things, to create a parallel world and do the stuff that your wife is doing. Guys on here can mock me as much as they can but on this one I try to follow a rather biblical principle of cutting off the branch that bears no fruit. Period.

milliejay 03/10/2014

Technology and social sites have ruined our world. I know that we can't entirely blame these sources because it takes a human for them to even have an impact but they have changed the way we live. Even to break contact with ppl after a break up technology adds/makes it very difficult. People use to break up 20 years ago and if they wanted to talk it was way more difficult - now texting makes it seem like to keep contact is harmless - for those struggling from breaking away texting is the enemy.

Stay off FB like most on here recommended. So sorry for your situation and sending you thoughts of peace.

ecotime47 03/10/2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be praying for you today. Suspending facebook was a really good idea. She is in the fog right now and in time she will no doubt regret airing her poor life-choices all over facebook.

Are you seeing a counselor right now?

ChiTownBear 03/10/2014

Has anyone else had to deal with this? Yes.

I know its hard to see someone you care about going on and about with a new partner. All you can do is like people have suggested, unfriend and block. Facebook is better at blocking people then most websites. Also, as some stated, just ask your friends and family or whoever is telling you about her and him, to please dont' bring it up, you don't really want to know.

Im sorry man, I know it hurts.

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