This I went through. Some other man in my home! He saw my picture with her from our last vacation together, and commented on it. I came home the next day, and said, wow, you left those pictures up. Odd. He was there until 3 am, as she told me, they watched a movie, I am sure did some other stuff... and she never dated him again. To this day I don't know why. But that was reeling pain for me, because I did give a crap. Why would she ask if she didn't feel guilty about it??

Nope, you don't have any control over her...just let her crash & burn! Just be there to cussion the blow for your kids. That's pretty much all you can do. Good luck!

Isn't just amazing the things they want to have us give them the okay with. My stbx had the nerve to call my daughter, who I was going out to dinner with and tell her not to have us go to a certain resturant because he and the ow were going to go there. She didn't even know what to say. I guess they want to make sure the other person in their lives is not inconvienced by our presence. It is a weird thing to deal with. Mine just wants the children to welcome the other woman with open arms, even though we are not divorced and neither is she. Also she was the girls doctor. But like you said what can you do.

I think that it sucks that she called to rub in more hurt!! That gives me a lot of insight into what type person she is, and you deserve better... Hugs, Kimmee

Fortunetely she has changed the house so much it isnt my home anymore. I dont even look at it like my home at all.

So far the idea of them being together doesnt really bug me that much. The idea of her not being alone while I am alone, that bugs me much much more.

I dont know if its just shock, and at some point I will be extremely upset over her being with this guy, or if I really am just so hurt by her now that I no longer care that much.

Right now other than her job, im thinking she is no prize; he can have her. LOL, I hope I keep thinking that way.

Oh she didnt call to rub it in. She called because she is afraid I will just show up and break down the door at 9pm tonight.

So it was her own selfish reasons.

I assured her I have no interest in coming to find them alone.

What amazes me is that she is ok with having a guy over 1 1/2 weeks after her husband moved out. You would think she would be concerned about what the neighbors think!!!

My stbx essentially tried to ask me the same. We have joint custod of our two children - two weeks and two weeks off. So, during the two weeks the kids are with me, who knows what she's doing. I can only imagine, and I try not to imagine.

She knows that I don't care for the OM, as he was around and perhaps contributed in someway the breakup. I'm not laying the responsibility on him completely, because that lies solely upon the stbx and myself for allowing the breakup to happen. Regardless, I don't want anything to do with this specific guy. I've told her that.

Consequently, she hides her relationship with him from the kids. I don't know for how long.

I told her she has 39,999 people to choose from in this small 40,000-person town. Pick anybody else.

Of course, I suspect I could possibly upset with any of them. Only time will tell.

My stbx started dating a couple weeks after he filed papers and it sure hurt like crazy. It does get easier with time to except it. As soon as he did that I stopped thinking of being with him in 'that' way. Now that I don't think like that it's a lot easier to take.

This is a brutal slap in the face for you. I went through this as well and certainly understand the emotions. It really is a hostile act on her part but she's camouflaged it as being considerate to you. If the roles were reversed there'd be howls of protest from her and her female posse.

That is crazy! I don't know what your situation is, but it sounds like she just did that to rub it in. Its like she wanted to make SURE you knew she was having her boyfriend over. I don't understand people who manipulate like that...try to stay strong and remember that you deserve a lot better than that!

Yeah, I agree, she sounds like she is rubbing it in your face that she has a new beau.

I don't know what else to say. Maybe she was hoping you would be jealous.

Oh I am so sorry.

I dont know but that to me is just wrong on so many levels. I dont think for a minute she had anyone's best interest in mind but her own. You (general use) dont need to call to make sure so and so doesnt come over and interrupt. I'm sorry but she just slapped you but good. That is really low class and so high on the disrespect meter.

Heck, I think I'm madder than you, lmao

Thank you for the nice replies.

Nothing she does suprises me anymore. She is thoughtless, heartless and selfish.

Its a good thing really, the more she hurts me, the less I care. Im finding it very hard to remember how much I loved her right now, and I prefer to keep it that way.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. That is down right cruel!!
Just remember, "What comes around goes around."
Good Luck to you.