Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So the last message I got from my ex was in the middle of August right after he got out of jail. I told him I didn't want any kind of contact from him and since then I haven't heard anything from him. Now today I logged in to my facebook account (keep in mind he isn't even on my friends anymore) and what do I have but a message from him. Not only that but a message from one of my closest friends from where my ex messaged him too. I log in and see his name in my inbox and feel like someone punched me in the stomach.
The message to my was all about how he still loves me and he doesn't think he will ever love anyone ever again because they won't be able to measure up to me - and that he is about to get his license. And the one he sent to my friend was asking him how badly he had hurt me. What does he think he is going to accomplish with this and why is it that he can't just leave me alone and let me heal and move on with my life?
The message to my was all about how he still loves me and he doesn't think he will ever love anyone ever again because they won't be able to measure up to me - and that he is about to get his license. And the one he sent to my friend was asking him how badly he had hurt me. What does he think he is going to accomplish with this and why is it that he can't just leave me alone and let me heal and move on with my life?
I have phone number and location for legal services and will either call or stop in tomorrow to see when I can talk with someone.
In Virginia, there is no such thing as a restraining order. There are Three types of Domestic Protective Orders and each serves their own purposes.
The first kind of Protective Order is an Emergency Protective Order. An E.P.O. is issued by a magistrate and it is good for 72 hours at a minimum. It can go longer if it needs to be in effect until the next Juvenile and Domestic Relations Court. It is obtained at a time when the court is usually not open and it is an emergency step to intervene in situations that need intervening.
The second kind is a Preliminary Protective Order. It is good for a length of time until a court hearing can be held with the suspect present in court and the victim is also present. The order is issued by the judge and it is done by a petition through the JDR court. The clerk can walk you through the process.
The Final kind is a Permanent Protective Order. This order is good for as long as it is needed. It is done by the court during a hearing. It is done after the P.P.O.
To get a Protective Order a victim must present testimony that the victim is in fear for their life or safety. Things that are admissible are past history, assaultive behavior, statements by the suspect, photographs of physical injuries, damage done inside the residence (it shows violence), past violent criminal history, and other things that would lead a reasonable prudent person to believe that the victim could be in fear for their safety.
Protective orders can be anywhere from "No Violent Contact" where contact is allowed but it is violated if the subject gets violent or makes violent statement to "No Contact" where the suspect is to have no contact with the victim. No Contact would include spoken work, email, cell phone, home phone, pager, or any other means of communication. Some Protective orders also state a range where the suspect can't be anywhere within X amout of distance from the victim.
Protective Orders can be obtained and they can be dismissed by a judge. If the need to get rid of a protective order exists, then you can go before the judge and request for it to be dismissed.