Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I've been dating someone off and on for over 2 yrs. Yes, I was married for part of that time, but my marriage was over long before. He is still married, won't be getting divorced, although he's like to, but his wife doesn't want to share custody of their child. He is only 8, where as my children are 20 and 15, so I get the whole thing.
We had a period where we weren't together, and I met someone on a dating site. I met him ONCE at 1 in the afternoon to explain that I'm in love with someone else, and he needs to stop contacting me.
He left me a message last night informing me he was taking me out for lunch, and wasn't taking no for an answer. He also called me 4 more times during the morning, all of which I told him that I wasn't going out to lunch with him.
My boyfriend stopped over at lunch - he only works a few blocks away, and then after work - to find a very graphic picture on my phone of what I'm missing out on!
Thankfully, my boyfriend decided to let things be, and wasn't going to confront him at the moment, but if he had called, he would have had words with him.
Part of the problem is, he is a law officer, and is that appropriate behavior?
Now, my boyfriend's totally worried about my well being!
A friend suggested I go to the local police - he's from a different city - and file a complaint, but I'm totally afraid.
My boyfriend, as adventerous as he is, wouldn't even do that.
What is it that makes men or even women want to send pictures of themself naked to other people?
We had a period where we weren't together, and I met someone on a dating site. I met him ONCE at 1 in the afternoon to explain that I'm in love with someone else, and he needs to stop contacting me.
He left me a message last night informing me he was taking me out for lunch, and wasn't taking no for an answer. He also called me 4 more times during the morning, all of which I told him that I wasn't going out to lunch with him.
My boyfriend stopped over at lunch - he only works a few blocks away, and then after work - to find a very graphic picture on my phone of what I'm missing out on!
Thankfully, my boyfriend decided to let things be, and wasn't going to confront him at the moment, but if he had called, he would have had words with him.
Part of the problem is, he is a law officer, and is that appropriate behavior?
Now, my boyfriend's totally worried about my well being!
A friend suggested I go to the local police - he's from a different city - and file a complaint, but I'm totally afraid.
My boyfriend, as adventerous as he is, wouldn't even do that.
What is it that makes men or even women want to send pictures of themself naked to other people?
Next, the best first option for dealing with someone who won't let go, is to totally ignore them for 6-8 weeks. That means: don't move, don't change your phone number, don't block them on facebook, don't change your email, don't change a thing. Just act as though their messages don't exist. (Throw them into a pile in the corner.)
Most stalkers will give up with No Response.
But that means that you can't even tell the person to stop.
If they're still going at that point. Take all of the contact information to the police.
I usually respond with "so THAT'S what a dick looks like....it's like a penis, only smaller!!!!"
I've never even taken a picture of 'my junk' so I can't imagine wanting to send it to someone. Weird.
That sounds like stalking. I would do some discrete research on how to report this. There is probably someone in his department or higher up that can address this. It's grounds for dismissal.
Best of luck to you.
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What Patti said :)
I had planned on calling it quits 3 yrs ago, but my ex was seriously injured, and spent over a year recovering, and for the first 5 months couldn't walk.
That's when this person re-entered my life, we were engaged in college, things just didn't work out. He helped with household things, and it took over a year before we realized we still had feelings for each other.
His wife filed for divorce, and we started planning a life together, but she called it off because she didn't realize we are a shared custody state, and she isn't willing to share their son.
She knows about me, and is glad that he has someone who loves him.
And, this other person constantly brings up the fact that he's free to marry me, when I'm ready. Problem is, I've never dated him, and just don't know where he's coming from.
I did contact my local police dept., I'm waiting for a reply.
Oh and LOLOL to Peacefairy. Personally I've never had anyone send me such a picture, but the response is Perfect!
I have seen others involved with officers and have hears that they can be a bit whacko when things don't go the way they want.
Exercise caution.
SEE MY JUNK!
You never really know if the picture you are getting is the real thing though. And if it is, the person sending it must be proud/pleased with what they have to be sharing it with the world.
I was sort of wondering in your post jul - were you upset that he sent you the pic, or that he's not taking no for an answer? you can stop taking his phone calls - He may start to get the hint from that.
I'm also a little confused about your married boyfriend looking at your phone - or did you show him? And why would you show him the pic? It seems to me that some boundaries are being crossed
I still am dealing with a very angry ex, and it's not because of my boyfriend, because my ex cheated on me years before, he just doesn't want anyone to be happy.
I took the kids shopping on black Friday for their x-mas gifts, and now I'm being accused of trying to buy their love.
And, the strange thing about this other man, he has a 17 yr old daughter, he has full custody of, and his behavior just bothers me.
I did talk to him before he sent this, explaining I didn't ever want to go out with him, and he wanted to come over and meet my boyfriend - that's when he sent me the picture, and supposedly, what I'm missing.
Brett was always my hero, and I knew him from the club scene his early years.
My boyfriend and I had long talks about, why would anyone do that? Then, to have someone do it to me.
It ranks up there with my daughter sending pictures of herself to her then boyfriend, and trying to explain that those pictures are always out there. Granted, she was smart enough not to include her face, but still.