Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been married six years and we were together for 10. We have 3 living children together and a daughter who died 6 years ago. For the majority of those ten years we were together he cheated on me. When I would say somethin about it or express my disgust for the cheating he would lie about it or he would pick up something and throw at me or throw a tantrum like a 3 year old because I wouldn't let the subject drop. 3 years ago it got really bad and I tried to leave him for the first time because he had slept with a younger cousin who was like a sister to me and after our daughter died he started messing with his ex again. So I was gonna leave. He convinced me to move away with him to another town 3hrs away from my family claiming it was their fault things were bad between us and it would get better if we moved, it didn't. The cheating and abuse got worse. I left but realized I had 3 small children and no help. My family pretty much outcasted me for wanting to leave, My parents told me from their own mouth that if I left they would not help me with my children and I would be alone. I didn't know what to do,so I attempted suicide. After I got out the hospital I was forced to go back home with him. We moved back to my home town and once here I made up my mind that I would try to make it work but told him if it happened again I would leave no matter the consequences. On schedule it happened again, he cheated and began treating me badily again staying gone for 3-5 days at a time telling people at his job I was not giving him sex and I had abandoned him (this was not true at all). So one day the woman he cheated on me with called his phone and I answered after long arguements with he and I, I left. HE told me he would not pay me support and I was on my own. To make his point after I signed him up for child support he quit his job. My parents upheld him by letting him move across the street from my house into their old house so he could spy on me. they barely talk to me because I wont take him back and everyone tells me i'm wrong. I hate coming home because I feel like an outcast in my own house. Recently I found I was pregnant by him again and this had farther inferiated my parents into trying to force us back together. He now go to our home church which he never attended before, gave away his car so he can depend on me and have even tole me it's my duty to support him. I'm alone I have no friends and am alienated at my own church.
I really think someone at a shelter could give you some good advice and maybe help you.
The for certain thing seems to be you need to move, not just move, but MOVE, someplace else to get away from these crazy people, I'm talking as far away as possible.. Away from all of them. If you don't you will have nothing but stress in your life and that is horrible, for both you and the kids.
I am sending tons of support and lots of hugs.
Good luck!!
You are young and strong....you can get away! But you can't keep having babies and connecting with the man who is on a road to distroy you. I have a feeling MS doesn't have Planned Parethoods...but there has to be a place where you can get on some bith control at a price you can afford!