Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have never felt so used as I do right now my stbx and I slept together a couple days ago yeah huge mistake I know he wanted to work things out then he said he didn't mean any of it. Well today he texted me because he said he forgot whether or not we slept together and his girlfriend wanted to know. Wtf? It's. It like we were drinking. How could anyone be so heartless. And I didn't know he had a girlfriend. I called him and his girlfriend picked up. I wasn't mean I just tried to warn her about what kind of person she had in her bed. She didn't care the funny thing is she thinks she is a winner. She got some prize a manipulative narcissistic person. Then she told me that she had hacked into my phone and found information on me. Isn't that illegal? Even though I know she is lying because the things she said she found are not true she says she found conversations with other men before him and I split up. And unless I was sleep walking that didn't happen. I need advice on what to do about this help please
I'd get as far away from the both of them as possible. Cut all ties. Nothing good is going to come from either one of them. Your life might be this now, but it doesn't have to be, and guess what, you're the captain of your ship, so you can steer it in any direction that you want.
Letting go of exes can be a hard thing to do, but reminding yourself of why they're your ex, by taping a list of all the bad reasons, can help you steer away from lofty thoughts. The more you practice putting him out of your mind, the easier it becomes. Allowing people like him and her into your life is toxic and it's something you can control, but you have to believe in yourself, and believe that you're a good person and worth a lot more than what you're getting right now.
Wishing you well.
make him your ex as soon as you can
Stop caring about him, don't sleep with him again.
Stop caring about who he is with, it's not within your control so you don't want to knock yourself out about something you have no control over.
Forget about what kind of lies he's telling people - again, that's something you have no control over. It's not like you can go up to everyone he ever talks to and try to set the record straight. You have to let it go.
It's a hard process, it feels impossible at first, but it's what you need to do to stay sane.
Start thinking about what you need to do for your own well being. When you have an idea of doing one of the things you know you shouldn't, stop and ask yourself if doing this thing will ultimately harm you or help you. Go with the things that will help you.
Don't be so quick to jump. and who cares what loverboy thinks anyway. they belong together. Wish them all the best, and then go get yourself STD checked.