Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So its not even a month that my wife of 8 years left me and has been spreading rumors of me about supposedly trying to hit her, and harassing her which is not true. Today I find out that some guy on her Facebook is sending her a request to list her as his girlfriend. I I haven't even been served with divorce papers yet, we're not even legally separated she just left the house and already has a possible boyfriend. How can women be so f*cking cruel and leave her partner of 8 years all of a sudden and get with someone so quick before even allowing a month to go by? I am ustified in hiring a private investigator to capture her wrong doings because she's off doing God knows what and we're still legally married?
Stop checking out her FB page
Move on with your life
You've got to consider the divorce laws of your state. Many states now are no-fault states. In those states, you can pretty much screw in front of the judge and it doesn't make a bit of difference in the settlement. Here in Ohio, adultery is one of the grounds for divorce, but filing on those grounds rarely gets you anywhere. I know this because I filed on the grounds of adultery. In the end, it meant nothing.
The thing that worries me is you say you want to protect yourself, but hiring a detective is not going to do that. What you need to do to protect yourself is go NO CONTACT with her. She can't claim you're harrassing her or intimidating her if you never communicate with her.
I mean this in the kindest way, but you are going to have to take a step back and breathe. If you continue down this path, you are likely going to end up with a restraining order or worse. Focus your righteous anger on working with an attorney to protect yourself financially.
Hugs!
It is very difficult to accept the fact that someone that you love has abandoned you.
I believe that the nice folks that have commented are trying to inform you that it does not matter what she is doing or what she has done. All that matters is you now.
It's so hard to focus on yourself right now but, it is what needs to be done.
Emotions are a B---h and it is very difficult to understand the power of them sometimes. A counselor will be able to help you with tools to understand.
My advice would be to stay away from drinking and ignore her text or phone calls. Oh, and stay off of facebook.
Big Hug from Tony.(((((((hug))))))
It wa so hurtful to me and absolutely mindblowing that the man I had lived with for all those years and had trusted with my life was capablee of doing what he did.
I still have a hard time with it. I let go of him completely. The memories, all of it. Because I had to. I've been working on forgiveness. Sometimes I'm still not sure if I'll make it. So I come here.
dump her and her friggin cell phone.