you are a naive and gullible person. i don't mean that as an insult. it means that you have a beautiful but wide open trusting heart. unfortunately you chose a man who is a real charming bastard who has played you like a fiddle.

yes, tell him to f... himself and to never contact you again.

then, please go talk with a female counselor of some sort and tell her how you have allowed this man to walk all over you. you have to learn from this so that other men in the future do not take advantage of you.

not all men cheat. but, most will if they can get away with it. try to keep an eye out for a man who has a truly beautiful heart. those kinds of men never cheat.

I agree with faithful777... Your bf is keeping his options open at your expense. It's hard, but you need to close the door on him. He has the best of both worlds at the moment and only you can take that power away from him. You deserve better.

the fact you even have to ask, tells me that you are leaning more towards being his friend. Possibly just cus it allows you to be in his life for whatever amount of time and it makes you feel good that he is nice to you.

but what happens when he finds someone else? Can you handle that?

And one other question, can you or do you really want to be his friend?

I am one for second chances, even friendships, but when one continues to flip flop on how they treat the friendship, if it is not something that brings positivity to my life more then misery, I feel I have to let that friendship go by the wayside.

People can change and you may be betters as friends, but they have to show it which means you have to at least give them a chance to show you. At the same token, there has to be a limit if the behavior continues.

Maybe write down what you would want in a relationship...whether it be friends or more....then examine if he really measures up to what you want/need/should be treated like.

Sometimes putting it down on paper helps you "see" the way others would "see" what is going on.

Best of wishes to you