This is hard. I feel I put my all into my relationship over and over. Yet I not sure I was ever loved. I likes to think I was at least at some point ! Altho my situation he does love our kids just not me. Part of me loves him but I deserve more or better. If that can't happen I just need to be alone. It's really a hard process with life.

I 100% understand how you feel, except its my ex wife compared to husband for you. I deal with it every single day. As much as i try to hate her I can't and I'm confused and hurt every day wondering why she doesnt want to try again. If you need someone to talk to that can relate 100% please pm me if needed

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with you for not letting go of something as easily as others. I think it just takes time ..as we would rather hold on to the hope of a happy ending rather than face the reality that the one we love, doesn't love/care about us.
Just take it one day at a time and remind yourself when ever you feel weak why you have to let him go ..keep saying that and one day your mind/heart will believe to an extent where it will automatically let go without you forcing it.

And also I think that if everyone would give up easily then there would be no concept of heartbreak or numerous songs about this very thing!

Thank u all!

Married 30 years and now divorced. I don't think he ever loved me, and I can see that now looking back-not at the time. You can't make someone love you. I do have to admit it's fun to watch him in his new relationship that he says is "so" wonderful, but I for a fact know he has cheated on her already. It kind of makes me feel better knowing he doesn't know how to love someone other than himself. Still tho- I tried so hard that now I am damaged goods in need of a lot of fixing. Don't do that to yourself.

I don't think marriage was ever meant to break apart. The bonds that are formed in marriage are supposed to be strong that withstands anything. When they break, there is great pain because it wasn't meant to be broken. Time helps some... Counseling?

I was in love many years ago and this person left me. I was devastated and didn’t want to love him anymore... but no matter how much I tried to hate him I just couldn’t. It took me over 8 years to finally date and actually start having feelings for someone else. Up until then I though my heart was ruined for loving anyone else. It was really lonely and when I would go to sleep I would dream about him....it was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through but I got through it... you just need to constantly remind yourself that he isn’t worthy of your love and he is not a good man for abandoning his son.... it’s a slow process but time does actually make it better... know your worth and protect your son

An update how things are going helps those not as far a long as you in your healing process.
Im not even 3 months out yet, and not a day goes by that i dont want to reach out to her. But i dont reach out, i dont look, i dont search. I will be strong and heal myself.

I think it’s harder bc you have a child together and also a history. You may still be in the forever long healing phase and have some denial about the relationship ending. Focus on yourself. I promise, you are not alone with those feelings for someone who doesn’t deserve them. Get a dating app and put yourself back in the game. It’s YOUR TIME TO LIVE YOUR LIFE! Embrace it. Find peace and happiness for both yourself and your child.

Here's the thing. You don't have to hate him. You don't have to lose what you felt you had. But you need to tellyourself that it's YOUR time to move on. Especially if he isn't a part of yours or your child's life. It's time for you to step up and move on. You will naturallyhave a piece of you're heart with him but instead of focusing on that, focus on being happy with another person. Let someone else treat you like you deserveto be treated. I think we all have multiple loves. Not to say we whore around but that different people captivate us at different times. Instead of wondering why this didn't work out,