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why do i still think about him everyday?

lmecklen
lmecklen
My ex and i broke up 2 months ago, we were on and off for the past 7 years. He cheated on me more than once and then he told me that im not what he wants. I still think about him all the time, i wish for 1 day he would not consume my thoughts. Im worried that im not getting better and dont know why i cant get over this. He has completely moved on and is so happy. It kills me that i could be so easily discarded (
sandysan5743
sandysan5743
I feel for you. I'm in the same position and it hurts and scares me that I can't move on... we'll make it tho because we don't have a choice.
katherinerose
katherinerose
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Work on doing the things that you enjoy with your family and friends. Widen out in your circle of friends so that you do not feel alone. Hang in there and in time I hope you will meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
BlueKnight69
BlueKnight69
Seven years is a long time to be with someone even if it was off again on again. Give yourself more time. I know how it is to think that they shouldn't be able to be so happy so quickly. It really seems like it's not fair. Just remember, you are different than him and it may take you longer. Well, I am still struggling even though she is not, but I am feeling a little better each day. Some days are worse than others but all in all, I can feel things moving up slowly. Katherine has some great advice. My worst days were when I sat around and did nothing. Get involved with family and friends. They are there for you and will be happy to help you out and give extra love and support. Try to stay active and be nice to yourself. Being active here helps as well. I don't feel so alone since I joined. Anyway, lots of hugs and support!
deleted_user
deleted_user
the important thing is that you are a woman who can bond with a man normally. be glad about that. for some strange reason, your man was not that way but that is his problem. now, when you are done grieving, keep an eye out for a man with a heart like yours. you will be able to spot him in a crowd because men with heart stand out from other regular men.
deleted_user
deleted_user
they do?



2 months is not a long time i'm sad to say
but however long it takes
and its different for everyone
you will get over it

in the meantime have compassion for yourself
youre going through something hard
figure out some ways you can support and comfort yourself
deleted_user
deleted_user
two month is not much time..........give yourself a break!
be gentle with yourself. you will go thru many, many emotions
JaniceHayes
JaniceHayes
It has been on month for me and the feeling still feels like it happened yesterday. Some days are better than others. During the week because, I work and go the gym and counseling I am fine. Then Friday night hit and it hurts.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh sweety you weren't discarded! You were together for 7 years, he obviously saw something in you. Don't devalue yourself. I know it's hard when exes move on quicker than you do but there is no way for both of you to get over each other in the same time frame. Please don't feel like you were discarded, that's an awful feeling! I'm trying to find a different perspective you could embrace, maybe you can be grateful the on and off stuff has finally stopped. Now you can find a partner who will only be "on" and who won't make you feel discarded. Stay up and treat yourself today!