Oh, honey, do I know the feeling. I'm in the thick of it right now. It's awful.

I don't think time heals all wounds, but they do eventually scab over. Then eventually you're left with an ugly scar.

im going through the same thing. its the hardest thing ive had to do. i dont know how to get away from these thoughts.. and its worse that our exs dont even care anymore. im sorry.

I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. He absolutely did not deserve you or the love you have/had for him. You deserve someone that will not cheat over and over on you. You are so much better than that. I think some people just aren't capable of real deep feelings like some of us have. They go from girl/guy to girl/guy. They don't understand why the person they left behind doesn't get on with their life.

the heart is notoriously slow to catch up to the mind

I know what you're going through and I'm sorry. It's going on 5 weeks for me and this coming Saturday would've been 2 years. I had a crappy week last week even cried a couple of times. This week seems a little easier. Things will get easier it just takes time. You will be OK...we all will

I think it helps to explore the reality of why the two of you are not meant to be together. Once you lock onto those facts, then you'll be more eager to move away from the situation. People sometimes get a little too caught up in the pageantry of "falling in love" and don't take the time to determine whether someone, who may be lots of things on a superficial level, can truly be anything of relevance on day to day issues. Because once the sweat dries, and the glow dims, you then have the person in front of you that has to dance in perfect harmony with you, your moods, and all of your good and bad habits. People forget how much they idealize themselves during the dating phase and how much they look past "little issues" because they want to keep this "chemistry" going. Well sometimes the chemistry is what's insignificant and the little stuff become the real issues.

You want someone who is a true partner and not just someone who is like a pretty picture that you have to constantly straighten on your wall of reason. Trust me. Your apart for good reasons. Trust your instincts and be honest with yourself. People who are meant to be together stay together and work through issues. Dump that poetry in your head about what "could have been" and be thankful you didn't waste more time.

for me, past loves no matter how far back they go, roll gently across my mind sometimes. as this relationship of mine fades and my anger wanes, i am finding that she is too.

hang in there. it gets easier. in the meantime, know that we care. :)