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Ok here is a good one. Why can't men just be honest when they want a relationship to come to an end? Why do they have to lie. Please don't say its because they dont want to hurt us because if that was the case they wouldn't do what they do to begin with. The excuses they can come up with is unbelievable. If they want out of marriage or a relationship why cant they be honest and sit down like grown men and say "It's just not going to work, or "I just don't love you" or "there is someone else?" Mine lied and said he had Hepatitis C and was contagious and needed to leave immediately as to not contaminate the family. That was a lie. I met my lawyer who stated another man told his wife he needed to end the marriage because he was gay. That was a lie too. Turns out he was with another woman whom he married and had kids with. Any comments?
People lie for many reasons...codependents lie a lot, thinking they're saving the other person harm when, in reality, they're causing more pain...and yes, that's a gender neutral issue too.
A for effort on the guy who said it was cuz he was gay...lol j/k btw
I've often believed I was the Plan B--he wanted to run around and screw other women, but didn't want the financial fallout of divorce. He also ran after women with "problems" and they typically don't bring home big fat paychecks--I worked (even with clinical depression) and brought home a nice paycheck that paid for his toys and vacations. He used me.
How I wish he would have come up with something as creative as "I am gay"--at least I wouldn't have wasted all these years with him, thinking he loved me when he didn't.
But he continues to lie today--to others, to his family, but most of all, to himself. These liars are pathetic creatures, worthy of our scorn, and perhaps, our pity, but certainly not worth any more of our time.
Sending healing hugs!
wonder why I'm so screwed up?
There was an article about this very thing recently on yahoo. It said that men and women actually have different reasons. I can't remember what the woman's reasons were but for the men it said that they will stay in a relationship they know is over out of a sense of duty, honor, or responsibility. So they they lie, lie, lie because they think it's more dutiful to stay rather than just give it to us straight.
Either way, regardless of the reasons I think it's very cowardly for either sex to do this. After everything we all put into our relationships it would be nice if they could just say, " You're not the one, I've outgrown us, I'm outta here, good luck with things!" But I wonder if we'd all be left with the same hurt and questions regardless? :(