Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Strong4me2017 08/11/2017

Why is it that I will be perfectly fine for a while and then bam! A wave of sadness and depression hits. It's been months since he left. Maybe it's because court is coming up that makes me sad and mad all the years wasted all the memories trashed. I hate feeling this way I hate being alone I try to embrace it and I do sometimes. It's the not having someone to share my life with not having someone to come home to that cares how your day was I miss that so much. I have a hard time not texting him I want to so badly but then I have to remind myself he isn't my husband anymore. I have to get a second job to pay my bills and I feel so worthless like I'm never gonna get anywhere. I'm gonna be alone forever it's pretty pathetic I miss being in love. I hate all those stupid romantic shows they are just depressing why not do something real. I thought I had my happy ending and now starting over is so hard I miss love anyway just had to vent it all out stay strong everyone

PeteMason 08/11/2017

Your pain is natural and, it is indicative of the beautiful loving and, lovable, yes lovable too, person that you are. Time is your friend darling, and it became so the moment you and your husband physically departed. What time will teach you is that your husband has done you the biggest favor of your life, it's questionable as to whether time will teach him the same lesson. People that leave relationships in the main do so because they have fallen out of love, that's a choice that they make for themselves and, never yours, they may use you as the excuse, but that is blame shifting and, therefore a lie. Healthy relationships are based on joyful communication between, did you have a healthy relationship with your husband?

Imlosingit 08/11/2017

I'm sorry your having to go through all this. 27 years gone for me. I understand how your feeling. I'm still living with mine, divorce is on the table for me. The roommate routine, after everything else killed it for me. But knowing that doesn't magically wipe away 27 years of feelings. No matter how bad he hurt me. I went, got my haircut, shopped, was feeling pretty good. Halfway home ,a song plucked a nerve and I was a puddle all over again. This may sound odd but I'm already lonely, missing someone to love and love me back. Feels like it will never come again. And he's still here in the house. But I can't let him bring me down anymore. I have to start living for me now, terror and all. These sad and, lonely feeling times will come and go for awhile. But they will stop. Hugs

Strong4me2017 08/11/2017

Thanks everyone no Pete it was not a healthy relationship it was mainly me doing everything taking care of all the bills cooking cleaning all he did was go to work

livefit 08/11/2017

It is natural.. You will go through the recovery cycle more than once. There will be good days and unfortunately bad ones, but as time passes you will have more good than bad. The memories you made will have different meanings as time passes as well. What may seem like wasted time maybe something different later on. Adjusting to being alone again is a challenge. You're going through a life changing moment and that will take time to adjust to also. You will get to a point where you will enjoy your independence but until then keep fighting and don't let the sadness over come you.

mirandac 08/11/2017

I do not believe true healing starts until after the
Divorce and the decree are in place and it is legally
Over. Even then there is still lots of Grieving to do
and loads of inner and outer changes that take place.

After the divorce your journey will be all About you
as a newly single person. It was a huge adjustment
for me And it took me a long time to detach from him
And not feel married anymore. I just needed to keep
Working on myself and healing my heart.

Hang in there it does eventually get better, they say time
will Heal your wounds. Its just not as quick or painless as
we would Like. HUGS

pete70 08/11/2017

I feel so many of those same emotions,,, but my waves are still hourly. You sound like a wonderful person... and I think anyone with as much to share as you will be more blessed in the long run. Sounds like your ex made a big mistake.... too bad we wont be there to see them realize it.

Strong4me2017 08/11/2017

Thanks I agree i think in some ways i keep myself so busy so inforgwt the paim and when i have a moment the loneliness creeps in and tries to take over it's so weird I wrote this today and then he contacted me. Only to start a fight of course saying that I cheated on him which I didn't he says he did and background check on me and found all these messages from other guys. He is trying to get me all upset which it worked and now I'm mad at myself because he still pulls at me when I saw his name on my phone my heart jumped into my throat why??? And then all he did was accuse me of lying and cheating I feel so hurt that he would think that of me. I want to cry but I won't he doesn't deserve my tears

sjs777 08/12/2017

waves come and go. they do eventually get further apart, shorter lasting and less impactful- hugs

pete70 08/12/2017

I'd say he needs more help than you. At least right now you can admit your weaknesses and short coming emotionally. Keep writing it down... here or anywhere. At this point it doesn't matter what he thinks. He lost that right. If u have to... add him to the block list of ur phone. If u have have to talk to him... give him a custom ringtone. A song or something that makes you feel confident... or maybe even angry... so when he calls u hear it 1st... not him.

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