I know where you are coming from. Some days I want to crawl out of my skin. I have found taking a short/or long drive and dissolving into the scenery and music can help. If not an option, stay here and we will help all we can.

I found that just by getting out of the house and being around strangers, I didn't feel as alone. My daughter is at her mother's this weekend, and this will be the first time since I honestly don't remember when that I will have been alone. It has only been 4 months since the break up, but I feel much better than I did when I first found out about the affair and divorce. Try to think back to when you were a kid. What hobbies did you enjoy? Have you done any of those things recently? Again, I know that it is really hard right now, but it will get better.

Friends won't think that talking to you when you're hurting is a burden, that's what friends are for and suspect you would do the same for them if needed. Time and no contact will be healing and you're not weak just lonely but not alone since we are hear to listen.

I wish I had the magic words...for you and for me...and everyone else...but we do need to feel the pain for a while. Its normal to grieve, right? I'm reading a book called "The Ex-factor" and it's got some really good points about turning a relationship ending into a new beginning for yourself. Give me some time to read and I will let you know what I find out.

Thanks for the support. Just having someone respond helps. Unfortunately it seems like no matter what I try to do it just doesn't bring me any joy. I guess I will just have to keep trying.

i just posted about this too. but i dont have friends in real life i can call to talk about this. if you do reach out. i am sure they could help take the edge off even for a few moments. get you out of the house or something.
its hard. ive let go over the past few weeks of having very minimal contact when ive been used to talking to him almost every day for over an hour and him texting me all the time while he was out on the road. i have a life of my own but sheesh! this just feels so empty. this pain is so overwhelming it just rushes over me.
i am sorry you are going thru this - that any of us have to. people tell me it will get better, that im better off. i dont even know what that means. its like they are speaking another language to me.

go on a walk, go visit animals at the animal shelter, go to the park, go to a movie or walk around at the mall- even if its for 10 min. journal, thats what ive done and that helps me. play online games. rent dvds from the library or at redbox. exercise. set small goals like i will clean one drawer today or clean one part of my car today and do that little by little. i dont know. i guess i have no room to talk. im just going by what ive been doing but im feeling the same way. i dont want to talk to him. i dont have anything nice to say. i just want this divorce to be final so i can cut all ties and not have him holding finances over my head.

calling her is a temporary fix. you arent weak, because you came here to reach out. if you dont have a pet, get one. i dont know what i would do without my dog. even if you cant keep one, foster animals from the shelter or at nokill shelters in your area. maybe that would help. i bought a plant too. i have 2 things that are counting on me outside of myself - my dog and my plant. it helps.

all the best. you arent alone.

I don't no your story or the reason you left but doubt is was because there was a lot of joy there either. At least now you are trying for something better for yourself. Keep the no contact up and it will get easier with time.