I know exactly what you're feeling right now. My husband & I have been married for almost 7 years. 3 weeks ago, we had a huge fight, & decided to divorce. I have known this was coming, & when I was angry, it was a lot easier to think about moving on. Now, all I do is crying. I miss him so much. I know things will never get better between us, & that our relationship is unhealthy, but we seemed to make it work somehow. I still love him very much, & he's told me he feels the same, which makes it even harder.
I hope you are able to find some peace. Things will get better, it just takes time. Hang in there.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Same thing, we left each other crying and kissing and that we loved each other. But he also said he lost it a d wantsd out and we are too different, which is true. I don't understand life, I don't understand love that is just constantly lost. I hope your marraige will takr a turn for the best. I hate breakups. I don't see the point in losing someone we love. I feel like God and everyone else has abandoned me.

I hope you have therapy coming up and i
Wish there was a breakup group nearby.

None of this is easy try to talk to loving caring
Supportive people only. The rest will make you
Feel worse. Come on here and vent away thats
What we all do. Unsupportive people just make
You feel hurt and angry. We can also burden our
Supporters so beware.

The feelings and emotions are intense and painful,
You got rejection and probably betrayal. They are
Huge to move thru especially if you had a painful
Childhood. It adds gas to a hot fire. I am glad i was
Already in alanon also to help me cope.

I still have a lot of pain and hurt it will fade some day.
I have been 15 months no contact and divorced. Mine
is my triggers and any little thing to do with him. I am
still grieving and not 100% detached. Time takes time,
No one grief journey is the same. HUGS

The rest are making me feel worse. It hasn't even been 2 weeks yet and my 2 closest friends have no compassion. They expect me just to get over it and say it's my fault I feel this way because I dwell. Well its ao freah and I can't control the fact that my heart is still with him and my body just craves to be in his arms. Everyday seems harder and harder. He hurt me so bad.

I completely feel your pain. I have been blocked from all contact with my ex and her dad says she has moved on. I am a good 3 months in and this depression shows no restbite. My friends and family although have good intentions just aren't her and it's not the same.
Your not alone!! Hugs

Everybody wants you to just get over it and move on
And they do get tired of hearing about it too. Everybody
Has their own problems, i know i burdened friends and
Some coworkers.

Its one Of the things we talk about at divorce care, talk to
others Going thru it or a therapist so you are not someone
others run from.

Hang in there it does ease up with reaching out and getting
Support. I kept beating every bush i could find and i am still not
There yet.

Its in me that needs to heal, my ex is long gone And with another
woman. Its done and over with and i am so Not ready for a new
relationship when i am healed enough I will be open to it. HUGS

@empty how long were you together? We were together 2 years and I had to cut contact or I know I'd be waiting for a call that woild never come. So we went from lovers to strangers in t minutes. I knew his lifestyle was wrong but thT didn't make ne love him any less. And I still got hurt by his rejection. Although I should have been the one to do it because I treated him like gold. He occasionally did drugs and wS so selfish. And no license. He has 3 DWIs and the dY wek broke up he had w beerz and drove home with no license. I flippes out and told his mom, he's30 and if he got pulled over he'd go right to prison.

He sounds like my ex during his hay day.

4-5 oui's from 18-24. I met him after he
Stopped drinking. He needed AA for the
Last 30 years and i needed alanon too.

I know you get mad, it is the reality dealing
With addictions we need help too. Nothing
Is easy, simple or straight forward. Stop Beating
yourself up. HUGS

As much as we hate to hear it, its going to take time. You will repeatedly hear that it will get better and you want to believe that with everything in you. I can relate so much and it sucks! I wish there was a pill or something we could take that would remove what we feel. Im 4 months into my breakup from a relationship that lasted 7 1/2 years. He just dropped me and continued with his life, not looking back, as if I never existed. All I ever did was love and support him. I have so many questions. I just dont understand how he just stopped loving me, just like that. I know we think that these people are the ones who can fix us but, the ones who broke us cant. Ive come to the point that all I can do is bring it to God. He is the only one that can fix this. I didnt think so and blamed God for my situation. But I got a reality check. So here I am, sharing my position with you. Therapy is sound advice and the support of the people close to you is always good, but try seeking God as well. Im here too

Thank you for your kind words. I had bern praying throughout the relationship that God would have to intervene and break us up cause I knew I deserved better. God did but I'm struggling to accept that hes gone forever. I knew the life I was in with him was bad but that didn't mean I wanted to lose him or be rejected like that. I just wake up every morning hurting that he's gone and that he didn't want ne anymore and I'm sick all day.

I am very glad you have a strong belief in God
Thats helps a lot when processing your feelings
And emotions. Letting his love in to hold you and
To Give you love, courage and strength. HUGS

I feel the same exact way. My ex will not talk to me, even had me blocked on facebook then randomly unblocked me, I found myself creeping his facebook and seeing if he added any new girls...so I ended up blocking him. Plus why should HE get to check up on me and see how I"M doing when he cant even give me a text back about paying for the apartment we shared. It's almost like he doesn't care or already moved on by not talking to me. I'm going through the same exact thing, and I miss him so much too.

I haven't spoke to him since we broke up. I immediately got rid of facebook and changed my number. It's my first defense so I'm not constantly waiting for a phone call.