Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
When will I stop wanting to know who she is or wondering if she around in my life and I don't know it. I feel once/if I see her or them I will just die!
When will I stop feeling like he has the wonderful life and I am in deep up to you know where. He doesn't have to deal with our adult sons, one that has a mental disability any more. I don't mean that to sound bad but he doesn't have to be there to help support them any more.
I keep having jealous thoughts of them together and it really sucks. It makes me feel I don't know what...mad...sad..jealous...
I am overwhelm with all the stuff I need to do. The lawyer stuff. Getting ready to move. OMG we have a large house and there is so much stuff to go threw and I don't have the drive to do it.
Well back to work. Take care
When will I stop feeling like he has the wonderful life and I am in deep up to you know where. He doesn't have to deal with our adult sons, one that has a mental disability any more. I don't mean that to sound bad but he doesn't have to be there to help support them any more.
I keep having jealous thoughts of them together and it really sucks. It makes me feel I don't know what...mad...sad..jealous...
I am overwhelm with all the stuff I need to do. The lawyer stuff. Getting ready to move. OMG we have a large house and there is so much stuff to go threw and I don't have the drive to do it.
Well back to work. Take care
I think you wanting to know about her is normal! the truth is you have a lot of ager over what has happened and it is easy to look at her as the one who came in and stole your life. It is so much easier to hate her but I think the person who was at fault or the one you should be angry at is your significant other. No matter who comes along there is always a choice to say "no I am in a happy relationship." He decided to be with her and start the snowfall effect. He doesn't have to deal with all that you are having to right now. He gets to live his normal life and not feel the emotions and pain and that I think is what is difficult to accept. That someone can ruin your life or turn it upside down and yet they can walk away pain free. I am not sure how you begin to let go of the pain your partner put you through and how to accept/come to terms with it but I will say thinking of her and worrying about her is going to do nothing but create more pain for yourself. Who she is, what her story is, what her life is, we don't know and at this point dealing with his betrayal is going to be hard enough. Don't allow her to be another piece of the puzzle for you to have to work though. (easier said then done, I know) I think if you find a way to make her seem insignificant and as if she were just another person who got caught in all this mess, that she may as well have been any random person maybe the anger and thought thoughts of her wont hurt you as they do now. I think we always want to blame the other woman and want to know everything about her but I can tell you knowing it doesn't help.
don't let thinking of her take time away from what you enjoy.
All the best.
You are a very strong woman and you deserve respect and admiration.