gosh, i don't know what to tell you. I feel that your heart( however cliche that may sound)will be the best guide possible. None of us can tell you what to feel. I can't imagine anyone else touching me or holding me or even looking at me lovingly. i don't know when or if i ever will again. It could be tomorrow or even never. This is a question that your heart will guide you to answer. Besides you're not going to marry him. One date maybe the right test for you to see if you're ready to jump back in the dating pool; or if you need to stand back a little longer and regroup. i wish u luck with it though. we all deserve happiness.

first of all u need to feel that u are ready to date b4 u do....dont try to push urself if ur unsure....
If u honeslty feel in ur heart and mind that u are emotionally and mentally ready then and only then should u think about dating...
As for the guy - if he knows the situation or most of the situation and is ok with it then if ur ready u should go ahead just take it slow - just be honest with him about ur situation (u dont have to tell him everything only what ur comfy with)
take things slow and let him know u would like to move slow....
in the end nobody can tell u that ur ready to do this - its something u will know inside if u r....
good luck - take it slow and dont get worried if u get emotional at first -

I am just afraid that I will be potraied as a slut/whore to everyone else who knows my situation because I am still married. And I am not going to sleep with him because he is still a virgin and I want him to be comfortable around me and not feel like he has to sleep with me to get my approval. I want to take it slow and so does he I would be his first real girlfriend and there are times when he is around me that I can feel his heart race like he is so nervis that he doesn't know what to do. I think it is so cute. My soon to be ex husband was 14 years older than me and this new guy is 2 years younger than me.