ok its been 13 months since we split our kids are 13 and 10 and our 13 year old has special needs, part of the reason we split up is how to handle our daughter who has bipolar, and aspergers, seh is explosive and says alot of hurtful thinhgs, my wife and i are on opposite pages as far as how we handle i have tried and tried to get us on the same page but it does not work. anyhow that was prior to us splitting up after she had multiple emotional affairs, anyhow i wass always the strict one and she was always the pushover, lenient one, seh has been trying to become stricter and i have become more lenient, however we talk on the phone every now and again about oru daughter and today she agrees with me, tomorrow she wont, no matter what the situation is,

for example friday my daughter had an explosive outbreak with me, wasnt pretty, she had a small one saturday, with me in t he morning before she went to her moms, when she was at her moms she had a huge blowout with her. my STBX and her new bf were going to his parents house about 2 hours away even after what my daughter did my ex took her,

so my daughter wanted a friend to sleep over tonight she asked me yesterday i said no for her behavior on saturday, and her mother said to me in front of her you should let her have someone sleep over, i argued my point by saying, i tell her all the time when she is with you, she needs to ask your permission, i dont interfere in what you do, i tell her ask you be good for mom, listen to mom, but always aske her, dbut you try and tell her what she can do at mine, and you cant do that, last night my daughter called me about something and my X got on the phone and said i was right she needs to be punished, today my youngest calls me and in the background i hear her say to my youngest tell your dad i said she should have a friend sleepover meaning her sister, ugg