"Was this a ploy to see if I would get jealous?"

Likely just that.

I think you handled it well though

Oh the games people play. But with you who needs game playing only very insecure people you handled it beautifully proud of your:-)

No offense, but I'm not sure how this is a mind game. He owes you nothing not even an answer your his X. I guess it all depends on how the two of you broke it off though. Don't get me wrong it was kind of an ass move, and you did have a nice comeback for it.

I wont worry about it - if this is the extent of your mind games consider yourself very fortunate.

I know if my X asked me if I was married I would tell her its none of her effing business but she doesn't nor ever will deserve respect or a respectful answer.

Some people just always look for cracks, to prove themselves right.

Walk away, just walk away.

It's not worth the time or mental energy (and now can I ever learn to take my own advice?? Talk about mind games. The ones with ourselves are the worst...)

I think your handled that just great

You'll get more out of it if you don't even ask him anything at all. If you ignore some of his obvious quests to get you to ask or say something, THAT will make him crazy.

I do not acknowledge any more of anything from him, texts, emails, questions, or actions he takes unless it specifically has something to do with my daughters. Period.

And I know it may seem harsh but it is the only way for ME to deal with this.

I would not even ask those types of questions anymore. It does not do you any good to open yourself up to that kind of hurt anymore. Just let him live his life and you live yours. I know it is hard not to think about it but it will be better in the long run if you don't.

I am only concerned if he has someone living with him, my kids visit on the weekends. Being married most likely would mean someone has moved in. Today he left me a voice mail that he couldn't pick up the phone when I called bc he was in the bathroom taking a bath... it sounded weird and why would I care if he's taking a bath?

And now that I think about it, I did handle it better than I thought. It feels so good to see how far I've come.

You handled it well...
Wouldn't your kids tell you if someone else was living there?
I don't ask my kids anything, but they volunteer information all the time! The first thing they do when they get home is fill me in on everything they did...of course I show interest because it's my kids wanting me to know about all the fun they had. I don't try to check up on him at all, but I do admit it's nice to know there are no women around! I am always careful about what I do or say too, because I am guessing he also gets a full report :)