Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It's been almost two months since my divorce has started. The dust has finally settled. I am not shocked anymore. I am undergoing a wave of negative emotions but it is better than before. I told my closest friends and family about it. I also told my mentor. But none of my colleagues knew about it although they noticed that I removed my wedding ring and they have not seen me skyping with my husband anymore. What bugs me most is when they ask about my husband. I used to tell them a lot about my husband and since two months I have tried to avoid the questions. Recently, they talk about divorce a lot in my presence and asked for my opinion. It was difficult for me to give a reply because it pretty much reminded me of my situation. I feel that my silence is affecting my ability to maintain a good interaction with my colleagues. I think that I should not tell them about it but I feel isolated and alone when I am with them. Any advice?
There are always a few judgmental types about divorce, but most people know that divorce can't always be avoided and wasn't necessarily the choice of the person sitting in front of them (or was and was necessary). 50% of the population is in your shoes so it's nothing to beat yourself up about or feel ashamed of. It's something that is happening. The more you try to hide it the more curious they will be.
If you start telling them about your situation, I PROMISE YOU that you will be hounded for all the details of your situation and life. That was the way it worked in the one firm I worked in. If you say nothing, then you have nothing to be questioned about or to answer questions about. Your life isn't part of your job and if you let this bunch get ahold of details of your life, I think they will run with the details and it will be all over your workplace.
Scratch around your ring finger so it gets a little red much like you have an allergy to your ring. People develop allergies all at once.
If they come to your desk and ask you personal questions explain to them that you have to get work done. You owe no one an explanation, except if your boss comes to you and says you are acting strange and asks you directly. Then make sure you are in his office and then tell him, but explain that you do not want to go past him and want to get this confidential.