Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
We separated after 17 years of marriage, last autumn, owing to things I had done, and she told me last March that she was divorcing me, I agreed to it in July on the forms, but haven't heard anything since - I'm in UK, so does anyone know how long it should take.
Perhaps more significantly I'm told time is a healer, and that the gift I need to give her is to let her go. How? I was tearful this morning as if it was all new, and I don't feel I've progressed at all. I haven't seen her for nearly ten months, nor spoken to her for nearly three months, but I don't know how to respond or let go, emotionally. Any thoughts or suggestions
https://www.gov.uk/divorce
I'm sorry for the tears of letting go. I totally understand the feeling too. And time is often a healer, so to speak. Time is also the most mysterious of all-natural actions. And it is only natural that a heart left behind is a lonely heart. It's boring to wait. Sameness and monotony keep one waiting and wishing; this type of behavior is expected and quite normal. Knowledge of how to respond or let go is, in many ways, not simple and often happens as you learn and accept to avoid the other self of you reflected in the bygone relationship. In short, try hard to avoid that other person in you that's yearning for reconciliation. When it's over it's over.
I'm very sorry. Best of the day to you & many hugs.