I would say comfort for myself because if I'm am comfortable enough to tell my partner my inner most thoughts and I don't feel like I'm going to be chastised or ridiculed for them.....there is going to a be a really big spark....otherwise things will be pretty uneasy and bland.

Neither.

The foundation that we build a relationship on is most important. If the foundation is unstable, whatever we build will eventually fall down into a heap of rubble.

hmm good answers.

I do happen to agree with Verne here but sometimes even with the strongest foundation the right amount of turmoil can bring down anything if it hits the right spot and there are weaknesses in every relationship and you have to be willing to rebuild from new foundation.

Spark or comfort...
If by spark you mean chemistry, heat, fire, excitement...that is good stuff that needs to be re-worked in long term relationships and without a certain level of comfort, it may not last or be possible to re-kindle.
If you are looking at something not so long term...even then there has to be a level of comfort to have decent intimacy...
I would say comfort without hesitation but without the initial spark...the relationship may not make it to the comfort zone.
Everyone is different but the most important thing to ask is what do you want. For me, if I am not comfortable enough with the person to be myself then I am not enjoying myself and there is no reason to continue. Once you know then it makes the decision to stay or go that much easier. In dating, there is no commitment so the decision to move on should be easy and amicable.
Good luck and have fun :)

I think age has a whole lot to do with spark or comfort.
I think every young person is looking for eye candy or spark.
If it makes it past that part then the building of the foundation starts, then comfort.
I think if you have been through 1,2 or 3 relationships and realize there is much more to a relationship than spark or eye candy you may find comfort and peace is just the ticket to life long happiness.
I think it just depends on lots of things.

i want both

I want both too and add a sense of humor!

You cannot have a relationship without spark, Spark is the initial attraction. I say that both are important.

Thanks, just wondering was having a conversation today about which one people prefer. Seems half and half

you made us choose between the two lol.....if I'm not choosing then I would go with the Def L. song....all I want is everything :-)

charliegirl, I love your sense of humor.

I guess for me, its hard to care about the spark or even look for it if the comfort/trust isn't there.

I like that too Chitown

charm and sex appeal only goes so far. Mr. Douglas had is hands full with his wife on Green Acres.