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Ok..posted the FU thread yesterday..felt good but then I realized while at my counselling appointment, last night, that my 13th wedding anniversary is coming up on May 3rd. Technically, we are "still married" even though the papers are filed and just need to be heard. We are living in the same house, as well. Last year, when working on things we celebrated by going out to dinner and a wedding actually on our anniversary. This year, I don't know what or how to feel being in the same house. I want to leave, cry, I just don't know. I think handling it would be easier if we lived apart but we don't. Has anyone been in this living arrangement and come across this? How does one feel? I don't even know what I should do. I can't celebrate..not worth celebrating..can't even bring myself to acknowledge him. I have no friends or family to go out with to avoid the day, so I am at a complete loss. Any suggestions...may be coming back that day to say my FU's to him again.
I spent my 11th anniversary at a Philly meetup. It was a huge help spending that evening with other people. I can assure you, it was better than sitting home alone.
Lynne
I was in that type of a situation for my anniversary two years ago. It was pretty tense at that time. We had a trip planned to go to Houston for a concert and to visit her brother that was going to coincide with our anniversary, I didn't go but she did. I was glad to be alone that day.
Maybe you can plan something for that Sunday and Monday like a visit with relatives, or friends so you won't have to be there.
May 3rd is a Monday maybe you can grab dinner with someone you work with?
What the hell I'm off Mondays - I'll pick you up on the bike :) Then you can say "May 3rd is the day I did 150mph down the PA turnpike." lol!
I just spent the evening alone, but then again....we didn't live in the same house. I would try to do something with you friends.
What a terrible situation. I'm so sorry. The upcoming anniversary -- ugh. Does your counselor have any suggestions on perhaps some thought techniques you can employ that day?
If family or friends are not an option on that day -- anything you can do by yourself that won't make you feel worse? Even if it's just going to a movie?
((((llmt))))
I left a month before our anniversery so I got through it.
I say keep busy by doing something like a project that perhaps takes you outside the house. Buy yourself some flowers just becuz.
(((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))) and good luck!
Good luck. Anniversary dates may hurt for a few more years.
Be strong, wishing you were close, would help you figure something out. Try not to mope, no self pity, maybe go get a massage, pamper yourself a bit. Karma will do the rest! Hugs!