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Hexe 10/02/2016

If your husband of 25years and father of your 6 children one day told you he had been seeing a 15 years younger woman (a former student of his) for a year and half, he loved her and was leaving to be with her, then 2 days later crawls back saying he is sorry and wants to fix things?

empty 10/02/2016

25 years is a long time. You must be hurting something chronic!
Talk to him don't trust him but listen you know him better than anyone else. Hear his words see his cries if you know them to be true then he is worth fighting for in my opinion.
If it's because of some shit excuse he isn't worth it. Hugs

jojored 10/02/2016

A year and a half is too long to ever trust him, in my opinion. It was planned, deliberate, deceptive. 18 months of this, That's 547.5 days of being unfaithful to you and the marriage. How little he thinks of you and the family you built together. I would ask him to move out while you try to sort through things. Time will give you more guidance on what you should do.

samantha717 10/02/2016

I would leave him. Do you think he came back to you because he suddenly realized how much he loved you? No. Most likely he consulted with an attorney and now realizes how much this divorce is going to cost him to cost him. The other option is that his mistress isn't too happy with the idea of having him on a full-time basis now. And of course he will be less attractive when he's paying half his salary in child support and alimony. A year and a half long affair is not a drunken one night stand.

deserted 10/02/2016

Once trust is broken it can never be repaired. Don't let him back. You will end up regretting it if you do.

gem111 10/02/2016

I am so sorry he is such an idiot and putting you through this.
I feel he came back 2 days later because he had a fight with the girlfriend.
I really hope you are going to decide to look for some happiness for yourself. He can not be trusted, and I feel you would spent the rest of your life worrying if he is having another affair and when he is going to leave again. You deserve so much better than that. I hope you choose your freedom to at least live without worrying about him.
He is only thinking about himself and a place to stay. I honestly don't believe he wants to "fix"
anything.
Get yourself a good lawyer, this is a good time to get what you need for the kids and to get what you deserve to live apart, if that's what you decide to do.
I wish you the best!!!

ontheedge2016 10/03/2016

To get to a point where he felt he was ready to leave you and be with her is a pivot point for me. This is not someone that wanted to explore some things but knew he wanted you in the end, he chose her and had a long time to think about this.

Coming back 2 days later begging to come back sounds like she may have broke his heart. Or he really did not realize what he had done until he left...but I would hope a teacher has better logic than that.

People make mistakes, 25 years is a long time, and 6 children is a lot of other lives to consider. I would suggest you go through with a separation that he initiated. Take at least a few months apart before even talking about coming back together. If you both get some individuality AND still want to talk about options getting back together you may have something there. It will be hard for you to EVER trust him again and I think having him come back so quickly will add to the uncertainty that he even really wanted to come back.

MinFlorida 10/03/2016

Here's a question for y'all:

What would you do if someone posted a situation NOT from their own point of view?

Just curious....

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