Yeah. I wouldn't break silence. He'll know soon enough your intentions. Let him find out through other means.

Normally I would advocate the no-contact rule. Especially if you've made the absolute decision. But if he's just asking if you're okay, if you think he's genuinely worried with no other hidden motives (which he very well may be), my vote would be to let him know you're okay. You don't have to tell him about the divorce, but a quick text to let him know you're alive isn't terrible?

UNLESS you really think you'll lose your resolve. Then I'd say nevermind, no-contact.

Your ex has been stalking you. Do NOT contact him. You owe him nothing after how he's been behaving. It might also detrimentally affect the protective order you have.

He's an adult - he will be alright. Continue with the silence. He will know soon enough how you are and about the divorce. Keep up the good work - I know its hard but you need to take care of you and keep yourself your first priority.

xoxo

Stick to your guns and don't talk to him. He will know when he gets the papers.
Like cheryt said, you owe him nothing!

You owe him nothing in this. Trust me, your silence is speaking a thousand words...and he will never say anything that makes you feel better or lessen your stress.

Start taking care of you.

I have been ok for the time i havent heard from him, Since the texts earlier i feel ive gone backwards. Back to missing him and feeling alone again. Im so stupid and you all prob think i am to

Love and feelings don't just die overnight.....and if they do, then it really wasn't love in the first place. You are not stupid at all, you know that. You can't turn things on an off like a faucet.

Think of yourself and what's best for you and your future. You know what to do..

Needafriend, no we don't think you are stupid. I certainly don't. I think you are human, and that you loved him deeply. I understand and Im sure a lot of others do too. Its kind of a dance, three steps forward one step back. Sometimes two steps back. BUT, you are still moving forward. So, DONT GIVE UP. Proud of u girl. BIG HUG

You are human, and thus have many many feelings. I suggest no contact, it seems the best route. Do not think you are stupid, you are strong... some don't even have the guts to file for the divorce they just stay and live an unhappy existence.

DO NOT CONTACT HIM. If you do, he then gains control back over you. It's NONE OF HIS BUSINESS how you are doing.

Also, if he is to have no contact with you through some protective or restraining order, then take your phone to the police and report all the texts. You MUST prosecute this creep. He is stalking you and enough is enough and you have to keep after him to back him off. Seriously.

Also, he is not concerned about you personally. He has lost you supporting him financially and he wants that money back. So that's his purpose--money.