Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
sorry i've been absent for a while.
what's been going on in your lives? anything cool? not cool? would you like to vent?
did i miss anything?
for me....
i still haven't gone on any dates. don't want to. don't even wanna think about it. my counselor was thinking she should switch me out with a MALE counselor. that maybe i would get a better perspective on males and not so grim. i frown at her every time she brings it up.
vent:
i'm soooo broke for Xmas... i have no tree, and can't afford any gifts for anyone this year. i usually send out cards every year to about 30-40 people, but i'm sure i can't even afford that. had to throw out a whole box of ruined decorations, too, and i can't afford to replace them.
what's up with you?
what's been going on in your lives? anything cool? not cool? would you like to vent?
did i miss anything?
for me....
i still haven't gone on any dates. don't want to. don't even wanna think about it. my counselor was thinking she should switch me out with a MALE counselor. that maybe i would get a better perspective on males and not so grim. i frown at her every time she brings it up.
vent:
i'm soooo broke for Xmas... i have no tree, and can't afford any gifts for anyone this year. i usually send out cards every year to about 30-40 people, but i'm sure i can't even afford that. had to throw out a whole box of ruined decorations, too, and i can't afford to replace them.
what's up with you?
Nice to see you back!
It's good that you don't want to date, I'm with you, I believe it's a part of our brains that simple goes into protection mode after a traumatic experience and shut down the need. I think we need to feel good about ourselves first, if not we are setting ourselves up for failure.
As for your Christmas, any family you can spent time with....I must admit....Christmas holds a lot of bad memories for me ...I wish I could be more help :)
1. protecting myself
2. don't want to go through the process of getting to know a whole new person
3. don't want them to get to know ME
4.don't want any future pain or tricks or BS
5. feel like i don't need that somebody
6. did i mention i just don't need that crap?
i guess numbers 2-6 all boil down to number 1 when you think about it.
i still get mad when someone says the line "you're the most beautiful girl I've ever met".... how cheesy is that? who says that? all my walls just come shooting up with snipers on top.
ok anyways....
yeah my mom and one of my younger bros will be hangin out with us for Xmas. but he's a real grinch. every time you get happy during the holidays he tries to kill it by starting a huge fight with someone. and my head aches can't stand yelling. joy me.
so what are you doing for Xmas this year? family? friends?
poor lady. I guess God took her on a holiday and said "well you're comin home today, ma'am"
i bet she's really happy that the whole huge family will be there for her remembrance
If I could also add, Trust...I have lost trust in myself and the ability to know the other person...I totally blew that one..... FUCK.
As for Christmas time with the kiddies....it's going to be weird first Christmas as a two family deal.
im also struggling with the dating thing- ive posted about it and feel like a big coward since my exhusband started being on dating websites less than 30 days post divorce. oh i could just whine all nite about it. but im just saying i relate - and ive only tried out a few male counselors- females have always worked better for me. so i hope you find one that fits what you need.
could you make cards for people? im sending out e-cards. i know- not as personal. just an idea. i am going to go to the dollar store this weekend and see if there are any little things i can get that show some festive-ness around the apartment. maybe that would work for you? i guess you werent really asking for ideas.
school is going good, work is going good, just trying to stay busy. take care.
welcome to the group here, iloverufus. hope you get the support you need.
TML, yeah this Christmas will be a weird one. this whole year has just been fucked up all together.
Lynne