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Punkybrew
Punkybrew

So my husband has been away in rehab for 2 weeks he called 3 days ago and said he can't call me again for 30,days. I don't understand why he calls only for 1 min just to tell me where he is and nothing else. I called the rehab back and the receptionist said he can't have phone calls or visitation and everything is confidential. I feel like they are blocking me out as if I'm the enemy. I did nothing but suffer behind his insanity with his addiction. Yet in still, I still care about him. I actually do miss him even though every since he started using he treated me like crap. I'm mad & sad

jojored
jojored
Along with the mad and sad, do you feel a little more peaceful and better about who you are? It's funny but sometimes it takes awhile for us to exhale once our situations are destressed....
Punkybrew
Punkybrew
I actually do feel a lil peaceful. I certainly have been able to laugh more and now that I think about i, I feel more free. I don't feel like I have that critic in my ear anymore. Wow thanks!,
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
This part of it isn't about you. Rehab works a certain way and they don't break those Rules for anyone. The type of Drug Addict you described your husband as, gets 30 days of Intense Detox and Rehabilitation Therapies, that consist of multiple different group and "one on one" session throughout the day. They don't get outside contact or visitation for the first 30 days, because the Dr.'s want them to concentrate on what they are doing, not the drama back home.

Detoxing and withdrawing off drugs is not easy and its not fun, just talking to a familiar voice can be enough to make some addicts say, "screw it i'm going back to my life, this is too hard", I'm sure you don't want that.

You should take this time to reflect on your relationship and think about your own feelings and think about if this is still the right thing for you. He won't come out of Rehab all fixed for life, he'll have a constant battle to stay sober, and if y'alls relationship is not one that "should be" it's not one that he should be in, if he wants to stay sober.
Punkybrew
Punkybrew
@oldercper well I didn't sign up for a husband and kids father to become a drug addict either but I stuck it out with him. So this seems so unfair that if he has a problem he get to run away and leave all the responsibilities to raise our kids and handle all life's up & downs alone, while he goes on with his life and look for the perfect mate to satisify his needs & wants..
Calebb
Calebb
Did ppl tell U there could be no phoning
this started?
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
It's not fair it totally sucks! But right now he's in rehab, trying to get better, right? Then hopefully you guys figure out the problems and you get your relationship back on track.

Right now, he's not out going on with his life and looking for the perfect mate, not if he's in Rehab, the people you meet there aren't generally the ones you make life long friends out of. They're people going through the same battle as you just trying to make it to the other side.

If you want your husband to be a good dad and husband, then he needs to be sober. Do you want your kids to have a drug addict for a dad? As a mom, I'm sure you don't. You can only deal with so many things at a time. Get through one, then go to the next. Right now it's hard, because you have to do everything, but hopefully the payoff is you get your husband back soon, sober and a better dad and husband....

Then you go on to the next thing...but yeah, it's unfair and it sucks and I'm sorry that you have to go through this with your kids.
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