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Ok, what have I done......I was all set to move out and then the day I go to sign the papers for my new place for me and the kids....my co workers decide to have this intervention since me and my husband work together and decide we can't do this to the kids we have to make it work.....blah blah blah....mind you these are people that have no idea with what I live with everyday. A man that is incapable of love in any way shape or form, that is verbally abusive, throws things at me and throws temper tantrums like a 3 yr old in which when my 3 yr old throws a fit I can't even tell the difference. He is completely and totally the most selfish human being I have ever met in my life and just being around him makes me want to vomit..... I end up getting this huge place the house if my dreams as well as his.... I have my wing he has his wing but we still share the same bed "he will allow me to if I make sure to cook him dinner every night"...OMG I ended up in a 2 year lease all for the sake of our son not my kids they despise him because they know he doesn't love me...they know this because HE SAYS IT OUT LOUD!!!!! DING DING DING why would I do this....because he flips out because I was moving out...because people are telling me to because they don't know the hell I live in everyday.....I was looking so forward to my new life....I thought I could do it and live in the same house, that I could just ignore that he was even here because I don't have to see him until we see each other at the office...of course that is totally fake, he parades me around and tells everyone this is my wife blah blah blah..... UGH why did I do this????? Anyone have any answers except the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over expecting different results...
there are still ways for you to get out. maybe you should consult an attorney. don't live in misery!
Like you said, your co-workers don't know what you've been through.
I find it strange that they should feel the right to tell you how to behave, considering they don't know the whole story. They sound like a bunch of dopes to me-sorry
Hugs to you, gottabreath
When my co-workers finally found out about all the verbal/emotional abuse I'd undergone, they said, "We had no idea it was this bad."
Go through with your plans. If they are truly your friends and care, they will understand.
Sending loads of hugs! Stay strong.
After my husband abandoned me and my daughter and we had nearly a year apart, I had the harebrained idea to move across the country to try to reconcile again! Now my daughter and I are miserable (he acts a lot like you describe your husband) and we are (temporarily) stuck here!
It will be all right....
Here's what I learned, though....don't share your business with others. DS is mostly fine, because these are not people you have to see every day who are going to try to tell you how you live your life....but people in real life often meddle and interfere so much that you don't end up knowing what you want!
If you have to go talk to the landlord, you can....DON'T make a hasty decision....but for goodness' sake, stop sleeping in the same bed with him! Wouldn't you rather sleep on the floor or on an air mattress? ;~)
This may take more time than you want it to....but the key is to figure out what YOU want without interference from others whose life this is not.
Big hugs and I'm here if you ever need to vent.