who cares? why do our ex's do any of the stupid stuff they do? delete it and move on. they are our ex's for a reason.
xoxo

i care b/c i still wonder if reconciliation is possible

If it reminded him of you then it probably means he's been thinking about you. Have you seen a therapist yet? Maybe you should try to talk to him, if possible, and tell him how you feel. He won't know unless you tell him.

i have seen a few counselors. talking to him has never been a problem, but his responses make no sense, are dishonest, inconsistent, or non existent. trust is lost between us. i need him to be direct. the old way we used to communicate is no longer acceptable. im just venting here. thank u so much for ur concern.

OH - trust is a hard thing to ever get back.

Does he want to try and reconcile? If not and you are trying to push him into it, I don't see it being a good thing.

I see you ending up with a person who refuses to change, and you getting frustrated over it.

We can't mold others into what we want them to be or to do.

did u respond? unless u see a good christian marriage councelor i think u should move on but whatever u decide i support u and wish u luck

@msviv idk. i don't bother asking b/c he's been lying to me regarding that fact for 2 + years. i want reconciliation to preserve my family, but idk if i can ever believe anything he says regarding how he feels about me or our marriage. i guess its a lost cause.

@nomoredrama we've been to 4 counselors. all christian since finding out about the infidelity and we cant get past it b/c my h wldnt stop the other relationship. and wont talk to me on an intimate level. he says he doesnt trust me although ive nevr given him a reason not to. i did respond though. i just sd "yup." im glad that apprently he's thinking of me, but thats not enough. he has to do more.

iloverufus is right on the money.
And I too want reconcilitation...but I now understand after almost 6 months of him living with 'her' that it could never be the same and....I could never trust him again. So who wants to live like that?
Mine denied the other woman. Even right up to her sitting next to him in the car and me asking about her! They don't want to face thier own emotions. That's what I think it is.
I'm am looking out for me now. He has left me homeless, no job, no money and I can't even file for divorce! I am stuck because of him. And all his crap.
Even with another little one one the way. Do you want your kids to see that Dad a liar and cheats and Mom stays? I'm a Christian and do not believe this is what God wants from us.
All this said. I would still try wtih my H , if he called and said he made a mistake. But he will never admit it. So it will never be. Good Luck with all. You do have your hands full.