Wrap them up carefully in a box and put in plastic... and leave them untouched, you will want these photos in twenty years from now. If only for vanity purposes. ha. Do not give them away and do not keep them where they can bring you grief. Put them away where you will find them someday when you are not looking for them and you can show all of your friends how hot you were.

I still have it all somewhere, with moving, I hope to gather it all.

It took me 3 years to get the strength to go through the wedding stuff, some of it I got rid off, the dress and photos I kept. It was a beautiful day in my life and I also looked HOT,HOT,HOT - the large wedding picture which hung in our livingroom is packed up (that is hard to look at still) - but the one of me in only my wedding vail and corset, that I hung in my room - I look at it now and think, my EX was a FOOL to want a man over the knockout , dropdead beauty in that picture!!!! Best picture I EVER took. Totally his loss.

I have all the wedding crap errr stuff in a box in the shed..There were no children in this marriage..If there had been I would save the box for the child..

Since there is no child I will take the box out on Valentines day (5 days before D-Day) and put the box into my truck, take a nice long drive out into the desert. Line up all the crap from my wedding. walk back about 60 yards, take my Glock out of my shoulder holster and aim and fire.

Once I empty my clip, I will then gather up all the destroyed items, put them back in the box and put back into the truck and drive home and dig a hole and bury my marriage.

I really don't have to deal with that as she kept everything. But I think that I would save photos and certain memorabilia for my son.


As much as I would love to burn this bridge.

I have no idea where my wedding dress is, but if I did, I would probably sell it or donate it to Goodwill. I don't want my daughter's getting married in my wedding dress from a marriage that didn't last.

All my pictures from the marriage, I will keep. My kids still like to look through them, even though it's very painful for me. But it's still their life, so they stay.

I think it gets less painful to look at the pictures (I know it has gotten less painful for me) so in 10 years, you might like to have them. Just for your kids sake.

I threw away everything. EVERYTHING

I got rid of it all. The memories are enough to haunt me.

I'd buy one of those plastic bins, fit as much as you can in there, and stash it somewhere.

When the time comes, simply pass it to your kids. They deserve to have that history for themselves as they are a part of it.

I would keep the pictures, they're part of your life, you can't undo it.

Plus like mel says, my kids still like looking at them, they shared our life together too and I could never throw those memories away on them.

Well, I don't have children but I'm keeping the dress! I wore my mother's wedding gown, which was an haute couture dress made to order for her in Paris in 1950... and represents far more positive memories, via my parents' romance, than my own. (Fuck him and his decision to dump me)!

As for the pics, I'm keeping them as well. My family is all over those pics and they are a part of who I am today (good, bad and ugly...kind of like battle scars). My father is now deceased and my mother is unwell....Again, I will not allow his decision to sully the memories that I shared with those precious people.

If you are unsure, I suggest that you pack em' up and store them somewhere until you are in a better place to decide what to do with them.

Dress - trash
Rings - ready to sell
Photos - trash
Certificate - safely stored for legal purposes

I would not pass anything on to my children. I would not want them to begin their new lives with someone with something tarnished.

I don't need anything to prove I was married, I got the fucking scars.

I would not want my beautiful daughter to wear a wedding dress from a failed marriage. That said, I still have mine. I put it in a big cardboard box, on the floor of the boiler room. Did I mention this room floods when we get heavy rain? Yeah, I'm asking God to kill my wedding dress...i don't quite have the courage to pitch it yet. But I think I will soon. Rings are in a safe deposit box out of state so I am the one to sell them. i won't give my kids the bad karma that goes along with the gorgeous rings or other jewelry from him. I will sell it all, even though i do miss having pretty things to wear. Not worth the negative energy.

Hardest of all...Photos....I kept them all, took down any with him in them around the house and stored them in the basement (maybe I want those to flood, too)... Photo albums have our babies and him in them and i won't destroy those due to respect for the kids and they are all the memories i have of raising children. I don't want to pick him out of all of those, because i might feel ok about it all someday.

Good luck with these tough decisions, LLMT.

For now, just box it up. When you are stronger - you can decide what to do.