50/50 chance.Depends how hard they want to work on it.

Looking to the past when they had no responsibilities. Life was fun! No demands...no reality...nothing.

Won't last.....

I met someone in 2007 & hadn't seen since 1993. it didn't last. but if Both are interested, it could work. Chance are She isn't.

Sigh. ((hugs))
My H started talking to his gf on facebook. She was his gf 30 yrs ago. We have been married 33 in a few months. Yes. You calculated that right. He didn't sleep wtih her back then (a fact that i know) so I stayed with him.
He has, since talking to her on FB kicked me out, moved her in, and doesn't support me.
Yep. It does re-kindle. How long it lasts. Some last a long time. Some realize what kind of idiots they are and it doesn't last.
He was too chicken crap to tell me. His child hood friends called and told me that 'i' was getting a divorce. Yep. I can go on all day.
They think they've missed out on something? They think it will be all 'good' . Hmm.. No telling.

THANKS for the comments. Just wondered if they really think after 22 yrs of separation and many years of no contact if the grass actually is still greener on the other side. Or when they get there do they forget even the green grass can turn dry and brown. I think he is a fool who made a big mistake and doesnt realize it yet. If it were so great and he was so sure he made the best choice why is he still married to me? Doesnt he want to marry her? Jerk

I have also experienced infidelity. More than once. He even has children outside the marriage.

I know what is reeling out of control through your mind. Conctant thoughts of her, what she has that you do not have.

After the first affair (that I learned of-i am sure there are many more) I had my reasons for trying to work on it.

My regret is that I allowed that woman, thoughts of her to exist in my mind for far too long. Years really.

I am strongly encouraging you to cast out the obsession, thoughts of whether the relationship will or won't work and place sole focus on you- YOUR healing, YOUR recovery.

No good comes from this obsession. I know because I have been there.

Therapy. Read books on surviving infidelity. Prayer. Meditation. All about YOU!

((((HUGS))))

It's time you forget about what he's doing or if his relationship will last. Sure, fleeting thoughts are normal and probably healthy, but getting stuck in them so you cannot move on is not.

Don't give him another though - work on you and your growth. Your worth it - he's not. Who cares if it lasts or not. Shouldn't have any impact on you. It's not a reflection on you in any way. Although, it most likely won'tlast.

Move forward and try not to look back.

I agree with KRKing. You need to end this relationship. Why have you not divorced? If he's gone and it's been over a year, one of the reasons you can't move on is because you haven't.

I think it's time for you to speak to an attorney. Hanging in limbo does nothing for you and keep you from accepting what has happened and moving on.

Hugs!

thanks to all of you for your comments and support. I appreciate it. I was listening to the radio one day and someone came out with an interesting comment. When do you move forward? When you say enough is enough

I have to agree, start your life and don't look back at him... With today's internet, alot of folks are reconnecting... they say you never fall out of love with someone, if you truely loved them... So all you can do , is work on YOU and do what makes you happy... the hurt will heal over time...

I know I need to move forward but it is so hard at times. I think of him everyday whether good or bad he is always on my mind. The pain is unbearable because I trusted him with my life. 22 yrs with someone; you just cant get up and forget it in a heartbeat. Even my spouse said that to me back in June. Amazing for him to say that. He didnt think of those 22 yrs of marriage when he had sex with her. The lies, the deceit is too much to bear. I am seeing someone else already who has gone through similar situation and this affects the relationship. Trying to rebuild trust again and to love again and to get use to somebody else all over again is just too much for anyone to bear. I just hope for KARMA. I just hope my ex will reap what he has sown

Sorry ~ I am dating my ex-boyfriend from college. It's not what either of us wanted, but we both were in horrible marriages, and things just happened.

It's odd how things in life work out.

I pray for you.

things just happened? i couldnt believe i read this crap. I hope now that if you and your ex get back together again this doesnt happen to neither one of you and the next will tell you "Oh well things just happened" its not what any of us wanted. When you dont want something to happen it just DOESNT. Being selfish and not thinking of those you will hurt in the long wrong because you finally realized you were in a horrible marriage does not make it right. Karma does exist; i was told. I AM THE ONE WHO WILL PRAY FOR YOU