Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Leftbehind20 04/28/2018

I hate the Weekends! I can get through the week without feeling too lonely (the hardest is at night) but the weekends totally suck to be alone!! I used to love weekends cause that is when we'd have family time, date nights, etc... But it's so hard now cause I'm just reminded of what I've lost. I miss him and our old life the most on weekends. I am trying to be there for my kids but 1 is an adult, one is almost an adult and the youngest has a busy social life. This was supposed to be our time!!! The kids are older we were supposed to do more stuff for us!!! But now it's just me. And anything I used to love doing just remind me of him. Like there are movies coming out that I'd love to see but they are ones we would have gone to together. All my friends are other couples so weekends are family time for them.

I just feel so alone!! Why did he have to choose to walk away? Why couldn't he have chosen to work through our issues?

Weekends suck!

LoverofLove14 04/29/2018

Hi same situation here. Battling loneliness. He walked away from me and has moved on with the girl he cheated on me with. I don't have friends and its been 11 months now and no relationship. I'm lonely angry and bitter

Bordinaryrad 04/29/2018

Hi,
I've been divorced 12 years and I've had good weekends, and bad. The more time that goes by, the easier it gets. But the most important part is trying to move forward with the things in life that make me... me. I know it's easier said than done, but taking care of other aspects of your life will enrich you as a individual. Why ever he left you, isn't relevant. You, are what's relevant, and you need to keep your chin up and try your best to find happiness.

Shaner23 04/29/2018

I agree I'm in same boat, it's hard. I have a hard time not being pissed off, sad and angry. Mine are teenagers off working and this was supposed to be our time and he's with the woman he left me for and is happy while I'm alone it sucks. I have started to try and date but men are really horrible at least I haven't met any good ones yet and the only reason I'm looking is cause I'm not used to being alone I was with my ex for 20 years. I have couple friends so now I'm 3rd wheel. O find myself bitter and pissed off alot whether it comes to taking care of the house, the kids, it's all a bit much sometimes . It's hard to have hope I'll be happy again, with somebody again. Guess it's nice to know others out there.

Leftbehind20 04/29/2018

Shaner23 I totally get where you are coming from. We also were together nearly 20 years. I get so mad when my kids are throwing attitude and I'm the only parent around there's no one to back me up anymore. Or like yesterday I had to take care of all the yard work and I was mad because it took twice as long or just being responsible for everything by myself. All I can think is that it isn't supposed to be this way. We were supposed to be partners for life!!

I haven't tried dating yet because I know my feelings are still too deep for him. Though I have looked at a few sites. I wouldn't even know where to start. The thought of meeting someone new causes my anxiety to rise
If you ever need somone to vent or just talk to I am here and I understand what you are going through.

kataroundtheworld 05/01/2018

I can only imagine the pain and frustration you're going through!
But I just want to send you some encouragement! One day at a time. There are some things for me that I just can't help but feel anxious about unless I throw it up to God to take care of. But know you are a strong woman for continuing to raise and empower 3 kids! I'm not sure if you've thought about it or have done already, but have you talked to a counselor or family counselor?
Maybe for social activities to get involved in you could volunteer or get involved in community or church projects? They usually provide good opportunities to build connections.

Best wishes on your healing journey

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