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I planned to take my two youg kids and mentioned it to h and he came with to Maine for an overnight. See some seashore, visit llbeab, cabelas, Kittery, etc...Stay in Hotel with pool 1 night. kids loved.it. They had high expectations for my h and I to bond somewhat. We did get along 90 percent. Laughter joking talking. But he decided to sleep in the double bed with our son. I got our
daughter. Really had hopes to share bed with H just to give the kiddos a little hope (even if nothing occored) Had shared bed on Christmas eve,
and one other occasion since our separation began in mid Oct. Anyway Maine .... We had a pretty nice time....like no reason we should not be an intact normal family. He is dug in so hard (we are separated) that he is almost callous and unfreindly to me sometimes. Other times he is like a good friend, He went with us for our 1 night trip and is leaving Wed. for 5 days with his 2 brothers ice fishing. It is school break here and the kids will really miss him, Especially given our current screwed up family life. I am feeling like a second class citizen. I am not invited anywhere by him,,,,see his sick mom, NOTHING. Tomorrow he is gonna want to take the kids to visit her since he;s leaving for vacation. I am almost positive I will not be included like last week. He comes here eats dinner with the kids and me then takes them. Today I said "so I am just never gonna see ma again?" He got pissy and said you can come if you want whatever....We are not fighting about anything except he feels he is too bitter over some of the ways I treated him over the past 17 years. I have made apologies and gotten counseling and meds. I am doing good with me and my inner issues but I am falling apart without the man I love desperately. My kids are a mess. He drops in daily and is in our home whenever he is free. It is like having a house guest. I am beginning to lose it. Dont know how long I can continue to prove I am changed and happy with who I am and truly love my family.
I kinda want to tell him how miserable our son is and dont know if that will push him further away. I am BS about him taking off on school vac week. He used to when we were together but typically we had a FL trip planned a couple weeks later so everyone at least got some vacation. Why is he so selfish? What can I say to him?
daughter. Really had hopes to share bed with H just to give the kiddos a little hope (even if nothing occored) Had shared bed on Christmas eve,
and one other occasion since our separation began in mid Oct. Anyway Maine .... We had a pretty nice time....like no reason we should not be an intact normal family. He is dug in so hard (we are separated) that he is almost callous and unfreindly to me sometimes. Other times he is like a good friend, He went with us for our 1 night trip and is leaving Wed. for 5 days with his 2 brothers ice fishing. It is school break here and the kids will really miss him, Especially given our current screwed up family life. I am feeling like a second class citizen. I am not invited anywhere by him,,,,see his sick mom, NOTHING. Tomorrow he is gonna want to take the kids to visit her since he;s leaving for vacation. I am almost positive I will not be included like last week. He comes here eats dinner with the kids and me then takes them. Today I said "so I am just never gonna see ma again?" He got pissy and said you can come if you want whatever....We are not fighting about anything except he feels he is too bitter over some of the ways I treated him over the past 17 years. I have made apologies and gotten counseling and meds. I am doing good with me and my inner issues but I am falling apart without the man I love desperately. My kids are a mess. He drops in daily and is in our home whenever he is free. It is like having a house guest. I am beginning to lose it. Dont know how long I can continue to prove I am changed and happy with who I am and truly love my family.
I kinda want to tell him how miserable our son is and dont know if that will push him further away. I am BS about him taking off on school vac week. He used to when we were together but typically we had a FL trip planned a couple weeks later so everyone at least got some vacation. Why is he so selfish? What can I say to him?
I don't know why you want to get your kids hopes up. That's really sad to me.
Are you still in counseling? Family counseling?
I know how painful this is, and I'm sorry you and your kids are going through this. (((u))))
Giving them hope is not a good idea. It may provide some temporary relief to you, but for them in the long run it is really unfair.
Please continue with your counselling. Please talk to your counsellor about all this and coping.
One day, you will be OK, but the road is very long. Take care of yourself!