Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So my week started with me still on business in Chicago. I was doing a lot of healing while in Chicago and was starting to feel ok. Was looking forward to coming home on Thursday and put my new found "ok-ness" to the test.
And then bam! Wednesday I check my bank account and find electronic check transactions that don't belong to me. Well after some investigating I find out that my ex husband is using my routing and bank account number to pay his household bills (he does not have authorization to use this account). So I sent him and his lawyer an email and the response from his lawyer was "Mr. ______ has abided by all requirements of the final decree. You are divorced, you need to move on and if you contact me or my client again we will file harassment charges". What!!! He is stealing money from my bank account and this is your legal advice to him! So got my lawyer involved and she received basically the same response. So spent my first day back home at the bank closing and opening accounts, and filing fraud charges at the bank. I wanted to file a police report as well but my lawyer is afraid this will set him off.
So as if that wasn't enough....I decided to torture myself even more!! I had blocked my ex and the OW on Facebook, but for some reason I unblocked her (not him) last night and looked at her page. Why did I do this? Her page for the last month was only posts about me (she didnt call me out by name, but you know ho she is referring to). How I am fat, ugly, all alone, no friends, crazy dog lady, etc. That I willnever have a life and that i will die alone and unloved. Why do I care what she thinks about me? I have never met her, all she knows is the lies my ex told her and I am sure she is trying to justify the guilt of being with a married man.
So now instead of being back home and living with "ok-ness", I now feel back at square one. Not eating, not sleeping, self doubt and tears flowing. Why can't I find the strength to pull myself together.
I just needed to reach out to my DS family for some strength!
And then bam! Wednesday I check my bank account and find electronic check transactions that don't belong to me. Well after some investigating I find out that my ex husband is using my routing and bank account number to pay his household bills (he does not have authorization to use this account). So I sent him and his lawyer an email and the response from his lawyer was "Mr. ______ has abided by all requirements of the final decree. You are divorced, you need to move on and if you contact me or my client again we will file harassment charges". What!!! He is stealing money from my bank account and this is your legal advice to him! So got my lawyer involved and she received basically the same response. So spent my first day back home at the bank closing and opening accounts, and filing fraud charges at the bank. I wanted to file a police report as well but my lawyer is afraid this will set him off.
So as if that wasn't enough....I decided to torture myself even more!! I had blocked my ex and the OW on Facebook, but for some reason I unblocked her (not him) last night and looked at her page. Why did I do this? Her page for the last month was only posts about me (she didnt call me out by name, but you know ho she is referring to). How I am fat, ugly, all alone, no friends, crazy dog lady, etc. That I willnever have a life and that i will die alone and unloved. Why do I care what she thinks about me? I have never met her, all she knows is the lies my ex told her and I am sure she is trying to justify the guilt of being with a married man.
So now instead of being back home and living with "ok-ness", I now feel back at square one. Not eating, not sleeping, self doubt and tears flowing. Why can't I find the strength to pull myself together.
I just needed to reach out to my DS family for some strength!
Looks like the "business trip" was actually her birthday trip.
One day I will see how much better off I am now..just having a hard time seeing it today!
Don't let that trash occupy another minute of your thoughts!!!
Now, as for the robbery, what does it matter if it will "set him off" the divorce is done and there is nothing he can do to you. Not to mention, if him having access to the account is not part of the divorce dicree, he has no right to be in that account.
I would file something with the police as well as make sure the bank follows up and gets your money back to you. What a lazy pos... to do something like that. It just chaps my hide when people know they shouldn't be doing that shit and do it.
So, once you talk to the police, then you need to reblock that piece of trash on facebook and go look at some pictures from your trip and jsut remember how much fun it was and plan for your next vacation.
let the authorities handle them now.
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I had to pull him up on each and every thing he did to let him know that I wasn't scared of him and that I wouldn't put up with his nonsense. That he no longer could beat me up and that I was a strong and wouldn't take his shit any longer. We ended up in court several times during the divorce and he learned the hard way, but I eventually got him backed off.
Some are just bullies and you have to push back real hard to show them you won't be bullied any longer.
" I am woman, feel the baseball bat" ... That me really laugh out loud!
I'm with the others, let her have him! You came away with the better deal anyway...you got your dogs!! :) And, you WILL get your ok-Ness back!