i am sorry you are having a rough time with this.
i didnt think of my stepdaughter with this at all - nor did my exhusband. i threw everything away or deleted it - i didnt think she needed the reminder - its his second failed marriage and now there is no evidence of either. i certainly didnt need the reminder - way too painful. i had to do it almost immediately or i would still be hanging on to them. but that is just me.
i dont know your situation - i dont know your kids. have they expressed an interest in keeping them? do you think if they are of an appropriate age that they could just choose a few pictures and you could toss the rest? or could you lock everything up in a box for them when they do come of age with a note telling them to take what they want and toss the rest away?

pictures were HUGE for he and i - he was never home so he sent me a lot of pictures on his camera phone and from his camera via email. this makes no sense - but it was harder for me to delete those (and i still have a few) than it was for me to delete the wedding album we made and pictures from our honeymoon. maybe because i was with him for those? and for the others i wasnt because he sent them to me? who knows?

i hope you find some peace. xoxo

Yes, I have this problem too. I have literally just put them out of sight, bundled them all up in paper and bags and put them in the attic, where I rarely go. I'll deal with them later or leave them for the kids to sort them out.

Never mind the wedding pics Rose. Get rid of the bloody things. The only person they mean anything to is you.

For me, I gutted my house, every stick of furniture, the carpets every cup, plate and saucer - everything - gone and it is still not freaking enough. Gonna sell the house too.

Honey, if the pics upset you, burn them.


Mick

Mick, I like your style. get that crap out of there. but, as for the pictures, i vote that she puts them up in the attic for the kids to have when they are much older. the marriage shows the children their roots and that is important.

I put away the framed pictures--in a bix in case the kids want them. The album is still around because they do like to look at it once in awhile. For me, I figure, they did not want this divorce, did not want their lives to change. I try to have a situation where they can talk about their dad. I am not perfect and I am sure they would tell a different story. But I am trying.

It is not easy at all.

I used to be big on pictures and hek like 10 huge plastic bins filled with 20 years of memory. The same day he left I re
Iced all the ones he was on frm my site, created a new fb account as it hurt me to see him there, bought a new laptop with no pics of him
BUT
How do you delete the pics from your memory is the thing and how in the world you separate him from happy pics like the birth of your children if he was there too conta
Inating that precious moment with all his lies?

I only saved the ones with family members in them. The rest were thrown out. As for saving them for the kids....unless they were at the wedding, why would they want them?

I am dealing with the same dilemma
I do think we have to save them for our kids who were the product of that union though - as faithful said it is their roots, and you never know they may want them for their grandchildren. So I suppose we have to store them for them somewhere, somehow.
They don't necessarily have the same feelings about the end of the marriage that we do, so we have to be fair to them.

The day i found out he cheated and just got up and left me is the day i KNEW for sure my marriage was over cause i was not going to take him back (not that he tried). So that same day I burned my wedding album. The past is the past. I dont want memories of something i valued but HE failed at. Certainly did not want to see his face. I threw out my wedding dress and on our first wedding anniversary apart I gave myself a gift while he spent it with her. I sold my wedding rings. Enough said

I "cleaned" my walls from pics and put them in the garage - won't throw them out cause my kids, even though still young, they said they wanted the pictures - I told them they could have them but I don't want them on my walls. I also remove all his pictures from my FB, I have a folder on desktop that I haven't been able to delete but I don't think I will cause those are also my kids memories. But I have to agree, wedding pics I would have gotten rid of them cause the kids were not there, it was just our memories.

ripped up photos of our wedding and pictures of the both of us on facebook. looking at them just to painful.

At least you have a choice in what to do. When I moved out I have no idea what the ex did with the pictures ... burned, tossed, buried, stored, etc. I have no idea. To me, they are simply gone.

I like what New said. I really think grand children should be able to see them one day. It's part of their family tree.

I say save them for the kids.

I don't have any, so they will sit in a box until I'm so old, I don't know who those people are, then I may toss them.

Save them because "it's their roots"??? If they want to know about their roots they can get that info from me and their father. They know their was a marriage and especially know about the divorce. Many children of divorce will always wish that didn't happen. Why rub it in by showing them the pics.....just one single moment in time.

In this day and age there are people who have children prior to marriage. They are involved in the wedding. That is the only reason I would have saved pics.

Do what feels right to you.

I honestly dont have any pictures left here in my home. The few pictures that I have (not wedding photos..as we eloped) of him have been boxed up for my son to have but they are OUT of my house. I choose not to have any bit of his energy here in my home. Like Mick, there is nothing here at all int he house that is tied to him, or anything that he has touched...nothing.