I am sorry this happened. We don't always understand why things turn out the way they do. If there is a positive side to this, it is best that this relationship ended before marriage and children were involved. When children are involved, it makes things much more complicated.

I know it's hard to understand. My first marriage ended after 10 yrs and 3 children. It hurt terribly but, as time goes on, you will begin to heal and learn to go on with your life. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Did he say why?

He says I make him happy but he's not happy as a person. I'm gonna miss him. We have tons of great memories together but I know I deserve better. Someone who's going to put me first and care about my feelings. I may feel like it's the end of the world but I'll eventually get better. I'm still young, only 26. I'll find someone who loves me just as much as I love them. Only this time I'll have my guard up as I know I'm worth so much more.

You will look back on this and realize the break up happened for the best.
It took me 38 years of trying my hardest, till I finally figured out there is no way in heck you can make someone else happy for the long term if they are not already programmed inside to want to be happy.
I honestly think you dodged a bullet.
You absolutely want someone who cares about your feelings.

Think of it this way: You could have gotten married, have kids, lived in a rocky marriage, only to have it all come to end. And believe me, divorce with children is much much much worse than a jilting. Don't get me wrong, Jilting sucks, but it could have been much worse, more costly in emotions, time, money and little peoples lives. And... you are RIGHT, you will find the RIGHT person that loves you and will take care of you. You deserve better, and know you have the chance to get that better. I pray you find and see these blessings in your life.

Okay, it wasn't a 30 year marriage, but she was with him for 7 years, and that's nothing to sneeze at. She's got reason to feel hurt.

You are sounding stronger each day I know you are getting stronger. Text me if u need

so sorry, try to be good you. buy a movie, buy icecream , junk food, treat yourself to a manicure/pedicure, new shoes or earrings.

be kind to you. Treat yourself kindly and as if your this thing happened to your best friend. Often times we are much harder on ourselves then we would be to a good friend. Become your own "best friend"

so sorry for your pain

So sorry for your pain. Now that you know, you can start the healing process, no more wondering. I was married for 7 years so that is a long time to love someone regardless of the outcome.

Be strong, keep your head up, come here for support and know that with time, it will get better. Sending you hugs and prayers, I feel your pain and heartache.

Thank you everyone! I'm sad because of what could have been..but mostly I'm just angry. Angry that he could lead me on for so long and do this to me after everything we've been through. I'll miss him because he was a big part of my life but I need someone who puts me first. I think we're old enough to not want to party every weekend. I'm going to work on myself for now and hopefully in a few months put myself out there in search of someone who will appreciate me. Day by day I'll hope to get a little stronger but I know he will be miserable. He will learn to regret his decisions.

You have every right to be hurt and angry. If I weren't so disgusted by his actions I'd pity him. He will never find the happiness that eludes him. Happiness as a feeling of "in the moment fun" is all he can conceive yet he is missing out on the true deep joy of working and building a relationship with respect, honesty, commitment and sacrifice then looking back on the achievements both resounding wins and the barest surviving. Children are a huge part of that for me. He had the opportunity to build that with you and squandered it for some pipe dream of instant gratification happiness.

I'm so sorry for the pain. Yes, you are young and have a bright future of love ahead of you to look forward to but that does not diminish the terrible pain you are having to go through. May your heart prove to be made of resilient stuff and smiles, laughter and most of all true joy find their way to you.

your angry and hurt of course! I Would just say remember what he did to you and don't look back.