Yes. And that is hard to say. But yes.

No way for me on this last one... My marriage was worth it though as I have 2 great kids(young adults) to treasure

NO

Hell, no.

I truly don't know.....I know that I would not want to have to change having my daughter.....but I don't like the pain I have been through.

I have to say yes, I would do it again. Only because I got my daughter out of it. But if I could be given my daughter w/out my ex...then NO FREAKING WAY would I do it again! LOL ;-)

No it wasn't worth it. My life was lonely before, that's for sure but there has been so much pain for me and my life is definitely in worse shape than it was before I met him. It's unfair that his life was made so much better and mine was pretty much destroyed.

NEVER!

Feel the same as you Lianna. My ex has it all. I'm the one displaced and destroyed.

No. I wouldn't wish this pain and heartbreak on anyone. But...would any of us do anything we do if we knew the outcome? Interesting...

To answer my own question... in a heartbeat. I had too many good times and was the happiest I'd ever been. I'm really grateful for the years I had with mine. The pain I feel now is so worth it. Again, no arguing, fighting, abuse, cheating, etc.

I was really interested in how others felt about it though. I guess if you felt it was worth it you can look back and be thankful you had it. If you don't feel it was worth it you can look back and be thankful you are out of it. It's a win/win if you look at it that way.

That is a hard question to answer. I have three beautiful children that I would not trade for anything in the world. However the pain that I have been through is pretty devastating. I have been mentally, verbally and physically abused for 17 years. I have been cheated on at least 3 times and came back for more.

I dont know somedays I think Yes I would do it all over again, in a second, but then I think if I hadnt married him I wouldnt know what I was missing. I dont know i am just as wishy washy about this as I am about my divorce.

i doubt it. knowing ahead of time that a relationship would end would burst its bubble before it even had a chance to bloom very much.

it's like having an affair with someone who is committed to someone already. what is the point? they probably aren't going to leave their mate anyway so what is really in it for you over the long term?

My first marriage of 12 years was a nightmare the last 5 at least. I got 2 great kids out of that one so I'd have to say yes too, but I think even without the kids I would do it again because I feel like that's the one that taught me so much about myself when I came out of it and helped get me to where I am now. I think everything you do in life molds you into who you are and if you're happy with who you are you really wouldn't want anything in your past to be different.

i cant even think like that right now- its already happened. the process of transformation is already in place. it was what it was. and here i am. xoxo

Just have to point out that when I give an emphatic NO reply to this, I don't mean that I don't love my kids. And obviously I wouldn't have my current four children. But, I also wouldn't even be able to imagine them. They would not exist for me to miss. I may well have had a different, better, healthier relationship instead and would have likely had other children. And while I'm not suggesting that anyone could replace my kids, the reality is that if I had made different choices and had different kids with a different person, I would only know those children and they would be the irreplaceable ones. Ykwim?

And, most importantly, maybe if I had chosen better, then those kids (whoever they are) whom I love so much and care so much for, would have had a chance to grow up in an intact and healthy family with two parents who love them and who work together in cooperation and set a positive example for them. No matter how much I love my kids, my kids are one of the biggest reasons I regret marrying my ex. I brought children into a painful and broken life. Was that worth it?