Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
this dude (my ex) called me up about half a week ago ballin his eyes out sayin sorry for everything in the world including walking out on me 7 weeks ago.
he was crying so hard i had trouble understanding his words. i just know he was apologizing over and over for all he had done and caused. i told him that before he ever said sorry i had forgiven him. at least most of it, just so i could get on with my life, you know? so that i could be free. the pain was so bad, i had to set it free and start forgiving him. other wise, i felt like my life was in ruins and at a stand still at the time he left me and just moved out SUDDENLY that day, i never saw it coming.
anyways...... he said he missed me.... and had this pause like i was supposed to say it back. i told him there are things i miss in the relationship but also there are things i DO NOT miss. and that i'm ok and i'm rebuilding as i always do. i've built up from nothing before i can build up again.
ever since that day he called..... he has been calling me almost every day letting me know that he is alone at his place and just stares at walls. says he has no friends and tells me how depressed he is. drops hints at we should get back together, etc.
then the next day he says he "knows people", then he doesn't, then he does, then doesn't..... so i asked him which story is it? (cuz he left his cat with me and he needs to get rid of it). his answer today was that it's none of my business cuz we aren't together anymore.
someone explain this to me.....? is he tryin to make me feel pity for him? cuz i don't. i just want his cat gone. i have told him to come get his cat! or find someone to give it to.
i care for him as a friend after all we have been thru... but, i'll never be back with him again.
he was crying so hard i had trouble understanding his words. i just know he was apologizing over and over for all he had done and caused. i told him that before he ever said sorry i had forgiven him. at least most of it, just so i could get on with my life, you know? so that i could be free. the pain was so bad, i had to set it free and start forgiving him. other wise, i felt like my life was in ruins and at a stand still at the time he left me and just moved out SUDDENLY that day, i never saw it coming.
anyways...... he said he missed me.... and had this pause like i was supposed to say it back. i told him there are things i miss in the relationship but also there are things i DO NOT miss. and that i'm ok and i'm rebuilding as i always do. i've built up from nothing before i can build up again.
ever since that day he called..... he has been calling me almost every day letting me know that he is alone at his place and just stares at walls. says he has no friends and tells me how depressed he is. drops hints at we should get back together, etc.
then the next day he says he "knows people", then he doesn't, then he does, then doesn't..... so i asked him which story is it? (cuz he left his cat with me and he needs to get rid of it). his answer today was that it's none of my business cuz we aren't together anymore.
someone explain this to me.....? is he tryin to make me feel pity for him? cuz i don't. i just want his cat gone. i have told him to come get his cat! or find someone to give it to.
i care for him as a friend after all we have been thru... but, i'll never be back with him again.
i don't even care. i just tell him that i pray for God to help him find his way in life and bring him some peace (since he's been suicidal on and off)...... yeah this guy is disturbed.
when he walked out on me.... he washed almost 4 yrs of a relationship down the toilet. and it AIN'T comin back! it was the conditions he left that day that sealed the deal.
i was shattered but at the same time i'm glad he's gone. i'm still healing and it will take time to heal. i'm glad he has said sorry.... it has helped the healing process. i am forgiving BUT tough shit we aren't getting back together, man. when you left, you kissed it good bye! and you're not getting any pity from me. you did this to your self.
thanks for wishing me luck, everyone!
plus, there's something WRONG with that guy. he's UP then DOWN then up and down.... he can't figure how he feels about anything. i don't want that in my life anymore. and i got SICK of him yelling at me as a result of his own confusion all the time!
i looked up his symptoms and it's a dead match for borderline personality disorder. this dude can beg for me to go back to him but all he's gonna end up doing is running me over with his emotional roller coaster. what a drama queen. he needs psychiatric help is what he needs.
if you have trouble saying NO to some ex, just think about all the times and situations it went wrong for you. think about all the whys it won't work. and then tell your self you deserve BETTER. cuz you DO!
Lynne
Jaken, thanks for the support! it feels good to be getting some! sometimes i do have days where i feel doubt or just down about it. not that i wanna got back to him, but just sad that it happened.
y'all rock!