Go home to your parents. They let brides do that in the bible when hubby is an abuser. it's totally fine.

It's never OK to stay in a physically abusive relationship. NEVER. Or an emotionally abusive relationship, but emotional abuse is so much more subtle and hard to define and prove. The violence only escalates as the months and years roll on by. And once kids are added and the stresses of everyday living accelerate, the violence will only intensify. And it may turn toward the children. Do you want that? Have you talked to your religious leaders?

Do you have any organization like ours here CARDV Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence? Ours is supported at a variety of levels but it means someone to help fill out documents for court, shelter if needed, and someone to be in court as emotional support and other support options. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman abuse hurts and leaves marks far deeper than physical. Glad you're here asking questions and please get away from him and find a legal person to give you advice that's correct for the state you're from. For a country founded on freedom we need to do more to protect citizens from abuse of all types. Blessings of peace.

If he his having an affair or, has had one, he has broken the marriage vows. There is a biblical standard for divorce and that is for adultery. He has also broken the marriage vows "To love and to cherish". A man who loves and cherishes his wife will not physically abuse her. In my opinion, I don't believe the Lord expects any woman to be a punching bag for anyone. Do what is best for your own safety and inner peace. In my state, there are laws for domestic abuse. A man doesn't have to hit a woman, she just needs to state that she is concerned about her safety and the husband or significant other can be arrested.

Please find the strength now before you bring a child into this unhealthy relationship. I am speaking from experience. I only have one child because I knew it would be a disaster to have more and I still am having a hard time leaving. God understands. Times have changed. Best of luck to you.

I married my first husband at 19 not knowing how much he drank. It didn't take long for him to show his real self. Kicking in doors that weren't locked and shoving me into walls.

When I left our daughter was just over one. He came home drunk again got angry, destroyed the phone and put a knife to my throat. Told me if I ever left he would kill me. I was holding our daughter at the time. I talked him into going to bed and put our daughter in her crib. The next morning I was pulling curtains down as soon as he left for work. He came home to an empty house.

I tell you this so you realize how quickly an argument can escalate. You have no children with this man. Go back to your family before you get hurt. Find a Divorce Care group to help you understand that divorcing someone like your h is okay.

Thanks A lot for all your advises. Had a long sad day but feel a lot better. He went to see a girl he is probably paying for sex. Came back so late. Am not saying anything cuz am avoiding physical conflict. We are like strangers and can't be in the same space

God always has plans for every human being. He has a plan for you, just have faith that he will bring you whatever you need, when you need it. Your an independent woman and you can take any challenge in you way. Dont let one man bring you down, ruin your mind, and or hurt you physically and mentally. You deserve the world, and god will give it to you, just listen ❤ prayers sent your way. I'm here if you want to message me.