This is an emotional rollercoaster and It is
going to be crazy and intense during The
separation and divorce. The best to hope
For is some sanity. It is the time to use all
The maturity you have just to get thru it.

Escaping it does not help you heal or help
in The long run, keep the focus on yourself
And your children as best as you can.

Seek therapy and/or divorce care.org
Group. Let yourself grieve your losses
Its a process that takes time. Be with
And around Loving supportive people
as much as Possible.

Your spouse sounds like a checked out
Spouse. She is long gone, door closed
In her heart to you and your marriage.
My ex shows no remorse or concern its
Only about sharing "his" money. Hugs

I've been there. After I got over the shock and hurt of being served with the divorce papers and on Mother's Day no less, we had some times like this where conversation was easy and light and we even laughed. It tore my heart out. I'd go into therapy crying and wondering if we were making a mistake. Yes, you had happy times together, but those are not the only happy times you will ever have in your life. It's not like you won't have another one ever again. I don't know all the details of your marriage, but mine was very emotionally abusive. My therapist said that when you are in an unhappy or abusive marriage, the "good" times seem even better because they are so few and far between. In other words, what you would consider a "good time" in a bad marriage might not have been so noteworthy in a good marriage where those "good times" happen with much more frequency. Mine also seems to not feel the impact of the dissolving of our 23 year marriage. That doesn't hurt me as much as amaze me, like you said. There is a better future out there for you and me and all of us on this board.

I am going through this now and I have been divorced for a year and a half. I would not talk to him but recently decided to meet him and let him apologize for the at our marriage ended.. He cheated. But now he wants to talk all the time and I can't m. It hurts me still like it did when we first separated. I am more confused than ever

Contact like that will set you back. Healing is a roller coaster of emotions ..feel good one hour, want to die the next. Just have to plod through one day at a time eventually it gets easier

I don't think the person ending the relationship doesn't feel pain. OK, maybe some people truly have no emotions, but I think most people feel something. The degree of pain varies. How we process the hurt differs. But, I would like to believe that we all feel something. I live in a bubble though …

I think you remembering the good times and still loving regardless of the pain you've already endured is a sign of your strength. You're a good person. Time will heal this moment. There will be happiness again. And, hey, you might even be able to be friends one day with your ex. That doesn't work for everyone, but I've seen some amazing friendships come out of the darkest of moments. What's most important right now is that you focus on you. Don't hide behind walls you've built. Allow yourself to feel the pain. You'll heal quicker. One moment at a time. You can do this.