Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi everyone. I am new to this support group. I am going through a very difficult breakup. I am on no-contact now for 16 days. Me and my ex were together previously for approximately 1.5 years. I am separated with 3 kids. The main issue she had with me was that I had not introduced her to my children from my previous marriage. The main reason being that my ex wife feels as though she was responsible for the breakup of the marriage. I wanted to wait until the kids were going to be accepting of things and did not want to rush things. Unfortunately my ex girlfriend and I had come up with timelines that were not held up. I did try to approach my daugther about the idea of me dating and it was not well recieved. Unfortunately in the mean time things have changed and she now seems more receptive to it. I have told my ex girlfriend this already and she has told me that it is too late. We have been friends for about 5 years in total so we have grown to be quite close. We do also occasionally work together. I did give her a very expensive promise ring and after she broke up with me I asked for it back. The idea of her still wearing this promise ring was very difficult for me. She was previously engaged and kept the promise ring from her ex. It was like an albatross for her and she ended up remodeling it into a necklace. I never wanted this to happen to the ring that I gave her. I now it seems rather cheap but it was not about the money and more about me trying to move on. I am going through anxiety right now because of the promises that we had made to each other and the fact that everything has been flipped upside down. I know the answer is for me to continue no contact and move on. The problem is that we do work with each other and this can be very challenging. I am really angry as well about things and part of me wants to be vengeful. Lots of complicated feelings here. I guess I am just trying to get by and over this. I feel like my parenting skills are suffering because of the anxiety of the breakup.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
Your kids are you number 1 priority, period. Romance in your life is likely not in the cards for the forseeable future....just a reality. Your time will come, but for now your kids need you, and you need them. They will be your salvation for sanity and getting over someone who clearly would have made your life worse....girlfriend from hell to be sure.
- looking at your situation I feel like it all boils down to a lack of communication.
- sounds like you both really want to be together. Sounds like she thinks you were stringing her along and didn't have real intentions towards her all because she didn't meet your children. Tough!
- honestly I had just broken up with my ex about 2 weeks ago! One of the battles that we were having was that he wanted me to get preggos first and than marriage! So essentially he wanted to secure me I guess so that he wouldn't have to go through what you're going through with the whole promise ring or engagement situation, and then breaking up afterwards! We both too also made a lot of promises to each other and I believe another reason we broke up was a lot of fear of one-party not reciprocating or keeping their end of the deal.
- this can either get ugly or you can take some steps to try to make it work again. Maybe you should start off by writing a gratitude list of the ten things that you want to happen in your relationship over the next four to six weeks! Tuck it away and then see it unravel before your eyes but leave fear and doubt out of your mind!