Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

13,009 Members

100,360 Posts

0 Online

FogHornLegHorn 10/30/2016

So many emotions to deal with non stop, it's so brutal at times. I have made steps to not do certain things, like text her or look at her social media, but now a new set of anxieties and fears com. I accept I was the major reason our marriage failed, but I am so afraid I don't deserve or never will atleast get peace. I let so much of just normal life get in the way of being a good husband. I haven't been off my couch in 2 days now, will this ever end. I known people divorce everyday in the world, and I get that I am not the only one feeling this, but I just feel so weak. Writing this has me in tears. I haven't been drinking or dating, I read the booze just depresses more and dating to soon doesn't allow you to heal properly . But going cold turkey is so fucking hard! Please tell me I'm on the right path or that this is normal, I am about to break into a million pieces.

SBC1238 10/30/2016

You are in the very beginning stages of a long road my friend, as much as I don't want to say that. But you are taking the right steps. You definitely don't want to jump into dating too soon, that is a temporary fix that usually bites you in the ass later. Not texting or looking at social media is he best idea as well, things that may come up will probably make you feel worse. What you are going through is normal, and everything will get better over time. All of us on here have been through the same thing and are here for you.

Blondie75 10/30/2016

Sbc1238 is right.

It'll get a bit better in about a few months (but each day you'll feel highs and rock bottom lows). Sucks, but you're not alone.

I'm about two months in now and until yesterday, aside from going into work (which is tough by the way), each day, I "live in "bed" with a box of tissue bedside. I'm incessantly crying, not answering calls and feel like crap. I avoid going out at all costs and can't get motivated to do anything that I used to love to do.

I haven't been to the gym in weeks, no longer put on my makeup. I've been a train wreck.

Yesterday was a good day; I got out and about. First time I slept in weeks.

I have minimal contact with the ex (speak when neccessary) and it's killing me. But I'm holding strong.

We're here for you. All of us.

Do you have children?

FogHornLegHorn 10/30/2016

Blondie75, yes I have 3 kids. Only the 16yr daughter is still home. She stays with me alot. She is a typical teen, spends alot of time in here room and with friends, but she takes time to hang out with me. I so appreciate her for that, she can lift my spirits immediately. This is month 4 for me in my divorce. I know it takes time, but I just don't know if I am strong enough at times.

Blondie75 10/30/2016

You are strong. You will come out of this. It's heart wrenching and I know it first hand. I've been rock bottom; no light at the end of the tunnel. Nights are the worst . Weekdays are marginally better due to work distraction, but then the entire day on a weekend seems like it's a month long; time passes at a snail's pace. It's sheer torture for me.

You sharing the situation with your daughter is uplifting (thank you). Cherish that. :) At moments like these, I wish I had children as they weren't in the cards for me sadly.

Try to focus (hard, I know) on that and all the good variables in your life.

Amonte 10/30/2016

I was at a horrible place a few days ago and I found this podcast at overdivorce.com made by 2 guys who went through divorce. It really helped me pick me back up. That's not to say you wont fall again, but thats something you'll learn. As much as talking to friends and family can help, hearing from people who have been through this has been way more helpful for me.

Join the Conversation