For those following some of my past posts, my girlfriend of 4 years had cheated on me, for 5 days or so she had been getting emotionally involved with another guy. She had a lot of complaints from the way I act to the way I look ( I struggle with my weight and was anorexicfor much of my life and am still small) I ended it with her and a month after it happened we decided to try and work on a few things. Emotionally not much has changed between us, our fights our worse and 90% over text, but our in person and over call interactions are better then they have ever been, which is odd To me. My family doesn’t want to accept her anymore and my sister actively hates her, even before these things had happened, just a side note.

But here is the kicker and a reason to look upward, the past week during our date nights I’ve caught her starring at my chest and just looking at me more often. Since all of this happened I have been very actively going to the gym to change the way I look, at first it was out of revenge to show her how shallow she was but now it’s just turned into something that makes me feel good, I actually see change in the way I look and I know she does also. She never has and never will admit to knoticing me changing, but She blushes when I catch her looking. 

So to anyone going through things like this, image problems like I have, things can change, you can be happy again and you can do things that you didn’t think were possible, do it for yourself and not someone else. I’m finally happy looking in the mirror, not because she sees it but because the work I’m putting in is showing results.

now a quick question she has body image issues as well and she gets very mad that I’m able to gain weight and get bigger while she is unable to lose weight, how do I confront or talk to her about that, I can see it in her face, she’s liking the way I look but at the same time resenting her inability to change.