Unfortunately you have very little to go on, he obviously feels the way he does for a reason and, until you are able to hook up with him again you are very much left in the dark. He has reneged on you with regards to moving in which effectively makes him a liar, better out of your life perhaps because of then.

Thank you for your response. I'm struggling so much with this. We haven't spoken since the "last day",. I didn't beg him to change his mind Ii just left. And, I know I'm an adult but....he did not unfriend me on social media, and I didn't either since I'm trying to be adult about all of this. At least publically. Alone, I cry and wallow. I see him liking posts and making comments on things that my friends have posted and it feels like a slap in the face. Im in No Contact only because I'm afraid to reach out to him. I'm afraid of what he'll say. Plus I'm also stubborn, he made this choice so I do t want to look weak and needy. Ugh! I just don't know what to do. It say. Or think. I will put one dot on the proverbial "I", he has a thing about weight, like he's very anti-fat. Anyhow, since we'd been dating I'd gained 15 lbs. he never actually said anything but I withdrew sexually a little because I knew how he felt.

They often have someone new in mind and lined up,
many will not go it alone. I would unfriend him on social
media and stay total no Contact with him. "You got the
hint loud and clear"

This is going to hurt a lot and there Is a lot of grief to
process and move thru to get to the other side. I like
Therapy and joining a breakup group for the support,
help and guidance during this time.

Post on here often it helps when having uncomfortable
Feelings and emotions. It also helps to vent to Move thru
Everything. We do understand and are in varying Degrees
of healing and growth.

I cried for 4 months after he left and our last 12 years together
Were Bad, that still did not stop all the grief, rejection, hurt and
pain. HUGS

So he doesn't like overweight people, and you withdrew sexually from him because you have somewhat become, I see, maybe you have given him grounds to retreat. I'm thinking it is your next move and, however you choose to make it, rest assured it will be the right one, so go ahead and make it.

Thank you for taking the time to reply "mirandac". Although I can't know for sure, I'm pretty confident there isn't someone else. He has a very tight knit group of friends that he's known for years so I'm sure he's spending time with them.. it's like our relationship just died for him without telling me until it was over. I thought people go through tough times sometimes. And work through it, not just bail. I just wish I had just one close friend who would come over and watch a movie and let me cry, etc......

Did you put pressure on him to let you move in with him ?

" and he told me he just didn't see us moving in together and since that was supposed the next step, the relationship ended" not moving in together means the relationship has ended?

I might love someone and not want to move in with them. I just value my space,autonomy and freedom. Doesn't mean I wouldn't want a relationship with that person. You implied that if he doesn't move in with you " the next step " then you are gone, he didn't want to move in with you but also didn't want to lose you too : it's very suffocating for a man. A relationship with implied conditions.

He wants you, but not the moving in together. If that's a deal breaker for you, then it's fine to end it.

The above is even more accurate if he is a divorcee, anything that gets closer to a marriage will scare him, man hurt badly in divorces. ( alimony, child support, half their assets gone, the betrayal, divorced men commit suicide more than any other group of people ) etc

It didn't matter to me whether we moved in together or not. That was his thought on next steps, not mine. I had been totally fine just dating. He has been divorced before and has a daughter so I left that ALL up to him. So when he said he just couldn't see it, that was him telling me he didn't see us taking the next step, because that was his step. I would have continued dating him but knowing him how I do, I knew he was telling me that there was no future for us. And so here I am, broken and rejected. And he hasn't even made contact with me. Nothing. Like I've been erased almost. And I know this will sound childish but it is 2017, with social media everywhere. He stayed "my friend" on Facebook. I haven't been on it lately because it hurts too much. I see him posting and commenting and even a little flirting with a mutual friend. Nothing to lead me to believe he's dating, it's just hard for me to understand how he can just bounce right back like I didn't matter at all, while I'm crying myself to sleep every night.

I am sorry for what you are going through

Thank you. It's so confusing. He even said I love you just a few minutes before dropping me. A mutual friend, from A distance , told me that he's just looking for something that doesn't exist. Meaning the perfect woman. He's not even perfect but I thought he was perfect for me. Basically I know I have to just say to myself it's over but I miss his smile and his arms around me and the glimpse of the future I thought we'd have. I know some of you suggest reaching out to him but I'm not sure what good it'd do. It won't get him back which is what I deep down want so I think it would only serve to hurt me more.

Hugs to you, hon. I know the feeling. Cry as hard as you can then sleep some more. It helps. When the space gets too empty, put on the Calm meditation app and listen to a bedtime story for adults with the rain sound in the background. When that gets too much, listen to a audiobook murder mystery or something like that- Agatha Raisin or Hamish MacBeth are awesome. I say all this because only time dulls the ache and reduces the sting. Until time does it's thing, we nurse our broken hearts until we say, "Enough." Be well.

I am 100% with Raindropsonroses!!!! I literally can not be in silence. I get up, shower, cry through it all, best place to cry is in the shower, washes right off, I listen to Taylor Swift or Miranda Lambert or Carrie Underwood or any type of Pick Me Up playlist with Upbeat ~ I am gonna kick this in the butt ~ insert Miranda Lambert Gunpowder and Lead here ~ Lol ~ music that I can ~ I listen to audio books at night ~ good mysteries or self help or whatever it takes. I watch all my favorite movies on Netflix or Amazon. I do WHATEVER it takes. I make myself get out and go for a walk. It is Imperative that you get out every day. You have got to get out every day at least for 15 to 30 min. Even if you just sit on your porch. Shower, get dressed, get out. I walked 30 min today. I sweated off 5lbs I swear. I hated it, but when I got back, I felt 100 times better. I showered 3 times today! But I felt better after every one. I painted my toenails, my fingernails and then I went and bout a hair color for my hair. Yes mam, 1st time in my life. My blonde hair turned out amazing. Goodbye $350 Aveda salon! It sucks, heartache is the worst. The only cure is time, but you will be ok. You will be ok girl. There is so much in store for you in your future. I was 44 when I got divorced, and I never thought I would love or even date again, ~ let me tell you, I was wrong. I cried it all out and I kissed some frogs but all in all I have had a great time, making good decisions. Got active in my church and that was the best decision of all. Time will heal you girl. I am sending you HUGE hugs. Big hugs. I will be here and I am just not figuring out how this works, but I will look for notifications. I will be here for you. Big big hugs. YOU GOT THIS!!

It's so nice to hear all the kind things people are saying. During the moment I am reading them I feel just the tiniest bit better. But of course, that fades, and I'm back in the darkness. I work, 5 days a week, it keeps 1/2 my mind busy but the other half still wanders off into "what if" world. What if I'd just lost 10 lbs? What if I wouldn't have allowed my insecurities to sabotage the rest of my life guy? I can drive myself crazy with that so I try not to do it. But, then the deeper questions happen......why hasn't he even contacted me? It will be 2 weeks tomorrow and I haven't heard one thing. After 2 years?? How can it just get thrown away? How can I just get thrown away? And the dreaded facebook, oh how I love to hate thee.....I unfollowed him so his posts don't creep up on me and I made it so the memories won't show anything he was tagged in, but still I see him. And for crying out loud, why didn't he unfriend me? I know, you're wondering why I didn't...here's why: #1, because I still have hope. #2, it would feel childish, #3, which is the hardest to admit, I keep looking.....looking for signs he's dating already, or signs he's sad too. Just something. And for me, my questions are always... How long until I stop thinking of him? How long until I stop the hope, which is so dangerous? I feel like I'm dying.

So sorry you are going through this. You will make it.

This sounds like a move my ex would make. Truth is, he never had intentions on moving in with you. More than likely, he has someone else lined up and had to come up with some reason to end things with you. There is nothing you could have done or changed to make him stay. He had his mind made up long before he communicated his intentions with you. You need to go straight no-contact with him: block emails, block social media etc. Ice cold! You will get through this; I am actually going through something very similar. It hurts - I know. I have showered twice in the last week; spent 22 hours in bed crying and sobbing trying to understand how I didnt see the signs sooner. You have to be strong. Take one day at a time; be kind to yourself. DREAMS by Fleetwood Mac has been soothing to my ears. The lyrics are right on.

People here can speculate till the cows come home, but you said you didn't think he had someone else lined up. No one knows what's going on in his head. If I were you, and this is just my personal advice, I would text him and ask to meet somewhere for coffee. Meet at an outdoor place, or somewhere that you won't feel penned in if you have to run out quickly. Tell him that you don't understand why the relationship ended and that you need clarity to move on. Don't elaborate on your emotions, don't place any blame, don't say anything that might cause him to feel guilty. Be calm, sit and wait, then see what he says. If he can't come up with anything, then you probably will never get a clear sense of what happened and you will have to learn to live with that. Hopefully he can have a heart to heart and you can find some sense of peace with the end of the relationship.