My boyfriend and I have not been doing well for a while now. Its a long story (but arent all relationship issues). In a nutshell, he works 70 hours a week and we only see eachother one night a week, with a few 10 min phone calls through out the week. The issue I have is that when he says we are going to spend time together he backs out. He never keeps his word. And when we have an argument, he will not talk to me for days and sometimes weeks on end. I can call, text, whatever, and nothing until he is ready to talk.

You can see right away this isnt a healthy relationship. I see it and know it too.

Anyways, a week and a half ago was the straw that broke the camels back. He had once again committed to something and tried to back out at the last minute. This time I held my ground and said, no, you said we would do this, so lets do this. He said okay, fine and acted like it wasnt that big of a deal. So I get over to his house later and he is being a total jack ass. He is pissed that he is having to do something he does not now want to do, and is going to make me pay apparently. After putting up with his passive aggressive abuse, I finally call him out on it which he gets up and walks away. He goes to bed leaving me sitting alone in the living room. This is not the first time he has done this to me. I even tried to go in the bedroom and talk to him, the response was a pillow over his head.

I finally told him, I wasnt chasing him anymore to fix things and if this was what he wanted then wish granted. I slept on the couch and left the next morning... I havent spoken to him since.

I decided I was not going to reach out to him anymore to try to resolve our problems, if he wanted to fix things, he had to come to me to work it out. However, here we are a week and a half later, and I have not heard a peep from him.

At this point, I think I am ready to move on. I am tired of these antics. I am in a relationship but basically live a single person's life. Even though I dont get to see him but once a week, if the emotional connection was there and I felt he genuinely cared, I think I would be okay with the way things are. But since we have started this relationship, it has gone from great to bad, and no matter how hard I try to make us work, it always goes back to the same... him committing to do something or spend time with me and not following through, leaving me with time I took off to be with him, but spending it alone.

I thought maybe if I backed off and left him alone he would step up and try to work things out.. but it just looks like he doesnt give a shizz... at all.

So how do I accept this and do what I need to do and more on?

I think I am still in denial which holds the pain at a distance, but whenever I start to take that final step to ending it, that is when the pain and tears come...