I'm proud of you linny, stay strong - hugs

Wow when you do it you really do it !!!

I still have all the contact info for my Ex
we just don't talk or text so i leave It alone.
Its Mail only With us, HUGS

I had to. Unfortunately even with him in my phone I'd likely cave and text him. I'll eventually forget his number as I'm horrible with numbers and he changed his so much.

But thank you both!

@ChelseaLeigh I'm so sorry you have/had to go through that. You're daughter is lucky she has you :) Deleting and blocking it all just makes you feel so empty right away. Right after I deleted the last picture I literally felt sick to my stomach and felt like I may have a panic attack. I know it's for the best though. Anyone that can lie to me up until we break up and tell me that he hadn't been happy for years and was just faking it doesn't deserve my time and energy. He even went to far as to say that I must not have been enough for him because it took the end of our relationship for him to realize he needs to change. He destroyed my confidence and trust for anyone, as well as my financial status, but he gets the change into a better person because of it? He said his new love is his "other half." That was the last straw.

That was the main reason I had to block him. I couldn't listen to it anymore. I couldn't see it anymore. I know time is what it is going to take in order for me to feel better and I honestly can't wait for the day I wake up and don't think about him.

Congrats and good luck. It is a lot easier to go no contact and avoid all social media. You are doing well. Yes holidays and birthdays are hard at first. First Christmas alone, first birthday alone etc. all tough but for the best. Keep working on yourself. This healing does take a lot of time so stay strong and positive.
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@ripped_my_heartout Thank you. I am trying. My first birthday since the break up was spent technically with him there because he also moved all of his stuff out that day. That was tough. I know, what used to be, our anniversary will be hard, as well as the day we were supposed to get married. But I agree it was a good first step. I still think about him, but I know that will subside with time as long as I don't have contact.

Linny5527- just spent my birthday without the stbx but she caused plenty of problems for me this week. I think our anniversary this year I'll be ok. Doesn't mean much to me anymore. She spent last years anniversary before we split, with the man she had affair with. They didn't sleep together that day but she went to watch him play baseball. She wonders why I was so upset when she wasn't home for supper. Anyways, take care of yourself
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I hope to be where you're at soon. I unfriended him on fb, but that was just an empty exercise as he uses fb only rarely. I still have his voice messages and phone contact information. I obsessively check my email account. We had no contact for 6 weeks prior to him breaking it. I find it much easier not to contact him initially, but excruciating to ignore when he does contact me via email.

There is a website that I recently discovered called 'ExNoContact'. There is a segment there called 'Breadcrumbs vs. Reconciliation' that might be helpful to you. https://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/2u8atf/breaking_no_contact_how_to_respond_to_breadcrumbs/

Stay strong.

@Anniveve thank you! I'll take a read later on. For me, I always struggled with texting him or checking his social media accounts to see what he's been up to. Being with him so long, a normal reaction to something that happens during the day is to text him. I had that happen yesterday. Someone I dislike at work got fired and he knows all about this guy. My first instinct was to pick up my phone and text him and then I had to come to the terms with the fact I can't do that.

Getting rid of it all seems to help a bit. I still have the memories and pics flooding through my thoughts, but I can't act on them. I can't go find them or reach out to him. It's helping me let go of my dependence on him.

You're very strong. I can not imagine the intestinal fortitude it would take to work with my ex and still maintain some sense of calm and determination. Seems to be a running theme for many of us that are still struggling with heartache - to check social media compulsively. It's exhausting and demoralizing. After 16 years of living with him, it felt as though I'd lost a part of myself and still does @ times. Although I still have miles to go, I revel in knowing how much further along I've progressed since first discovering that he planned on leaving me. We are more resilient then we credit ourselves.

I totally understand that. The last straw for me was the last talk I had with him 2 days ago. The way it went I knew that it was unhealthy for me to continue having contact with him. So I started blocking and deleting him from my life. A friend from High school reached out to me saying she had went through a very similar situation when she too dated a chronic cheater. She said that now she's at the point where she doesn't even think about him. I strive for that day because I deserve better. We all deserve better and if I hadn't came here, I don't know if I would have gotten the strength to take this step. So, I sincerely do thank all of you. Hugs to all :)

@linny you got this - stay strong - hugs