Right at a year ago, I found out my husband didn't want to be married to me anymore.Long story short.: he wasn't happy with me anymore but instead of talking to me, he got online and found someone else. We live in Louisiana and she lives in Virginia. They have seen each other 1 time but in October they got engaged. We lived in a really awful house. When I first agreed to buy it, I told him if I agreed he would have to do the work cause I dont like that kind of thing and am not good at it. I told him all extra money and time etc would have to go towards doing that. He was all gung-ho about it. We moved in and all work on the house stopped and he was spending the extra money on other things. I couldnt even get him to paint the bathroom. So when we split I chose to move out rather than deal with the awful house. As soon as I moved out he started putting all of his time, money, and energy towards fixing up the house for her. I was devastated about the divorce because I loved and still love him so very much. I'm doing my best to move forward. I'm dating a little and slowly building a life for myself. But it just eats at me. Why is he doing the things for her that he promised to do for me and didnt?How can either of them think it's a good idea to get engaged/married when they have only seen each other once? I don't know when they plan to marry but she is supposedly moving here in July. We live in a very small town, so its going to be impossible to avoid them. And i just dont understand why he didn't talk to me about what he was feeling so we could try and work it out? Why did he go outside the marriage to talk to all these other people, many of whom he's never met? Why wouldnt he do for me what he's doing for her? How do I stop loving him? I hurt so much.