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Tracks of my tears

myhero23-not
myhero23-not

My husband and I have been separated for quite some time now. I cryed everyday. He left me for another woman. I stopped crying about a week ago. Well tonight I'm crying again. I have not seen my husband in over a week and that is the longest I've ever gone without seeing him. The last time I saw him we got into a fight and he called me "a piece of s__t". In 17 years we never called each other names. That hurt me so bad and tonight the knife is twisting harder and deeper in my heart when I think of that. I am trying to be stong. I'm trying...

cleigh
cleigh
You have to remain strong. Ignore the name calling. He has to take whatever anger and frustration he is dealing with out on you. You are the safe person. He can't yell, be angry with the new woman because it is an affair. Affairs are pure fantasy and fiction. To be real with her would destroy his fantasy land.
HopeandMoreHope
HopeandMoreHope
I am so so sorry. I hear your pain and I can imagine how much you hurt. You said you have been separated for some time, but it has been a week since you last saw him which is long for you. So, it sounds like you have continued to spend time together even though you are not together? You might want to consider if this is best for YOU, especially since he is in involved with someone else and has not honored your marriage to one another. You may want to think about talking to a counselor and sorting out your feelings. You may need to learn some coping strategies when you are feeling pulled in or miss what you used to have. Please think about yourself and know that you are valuable and important. Reach out to people who love and support you. Distract yourself when you feel like you are weak and want to see him. This sounds unhealthy for you. Stay strong and be good to yourself.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
My ex also resorted to names and lots of them but like you we never called each other names when together in good or bad. Even today the words haunt me. I really have come to peace with in my case he has bad temper and it was his way of dealing. I just could never call him names like that!

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